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writes:hi im 16 years old and i have no qualifications as i got kicked out of school, i am considering becoming a protitute or joining a escort agency but i was just wondering can i even become an escort if i am only 16 nearly 17, i have no other income and i cannot get into collage and i really need the money otherwise i will be homeless, any advice or help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2010): Hi sista,
I know I have no right to tell you what to do, but, please I beg you here to reconsider your plan.
I think 16 or 17 are much too young to be one of the working ladies. In that age you can easily get exploited even if you are already darn careful. If you are lucky you can get protection and guidance from the older, more experienced co-worker, but that is very rare and most of the time, they'll only act competitive towards you. And it is not their fault if they act like that, you are new and fresh, and they’ll see you as a threat to their income.
I tell you this from my friend's experience. She's 17-18, done with high school, no money for college (in our country you must pay if you want to go to college, her test score is too low to be granted scholarship/stipend).
Even after working for a year as a prostitute/escort lady, she still did not get any nearer to go to college.
She said many men cheated from paying full tariff, agency cheated on her, older girls saw her as competition, and she started to drink heavily and experimented with drugs because of the stress and hanging around everyday in the night in the red districts got her easier access for those things.
It took an enormous effort from her side get her off that road. She got into rehab, I paid her debt with her agency so they agree to cut her loose, changing emails and phone numbers to avoid her ex customers who do not understand the word "quit", moved into a new town, and making a fresh start to prepare for college.
Try to get a job in restaurants or hotels. Ask your friend for help, or at least a place to stay, at least a warm room with roof, even if you have to sleep on a couch.
Don’t give up, in a few years in the future, after things got better (and it will), you will feel very proud about yourself. I know you can do it.
Bad situations open the door to the room of despair, and you are already inside, but please don’t close the door behind you. Try to get out somehow, ask for help, and stay strong.
XXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2010): There are options here. It's not that I object to prostitution as a profession, I'm from Australia and we have a brothel listed on the stock market ffs.
But even here the minimum age for that is 18... which is strange when you think about the legal age of consent as being 16 here.
Anyway, the point is, you are thinking with too much depression.
First of all, what is the reason you were kicked out of school? Was it fair?
Secondly, homeless? WTF are your parents? Why did they even let you get into this situation? And surely there are other family members that are willing to let you stay with them for a while.
Thirdly, there are OTHER schools and you need only go and talk to them and let them know of your circumstances and I'm sure something can be worked out, an arrangement for payments.
Fourthly, What about government benefits? Here in Oz we have what is called YOUTH ALLOWANCE, which is essentially just a regular payment the government gives to you, funded by the taxes we pay, in exchange for the signed agreement that you are going to use it for schooling or to help you find work. It doesn't allow you to live all that riotously but it gets the job done. You can use that until 18 and you are a lawful adult, it then becomes NEWSTART ALLOWANCE or (The Dole as it is known) and it is essentially to allow you to live until you find gainful employment that pays enough that you don't need the payments. Hell they even have part-time jobs you can do to earn the dole payments until you get a proper job... as its easier to get a job if you are already working in some capacity.
Prostitution may indeed be a sure-fire way to make the money, as there will always be people willing to pay you to sleep with them, but consider what you would lose as opposed to what you would gain.
You might make money, and if you are shrewd enough, lots of it. But they will never see you as a person, only as a living and breathing sex-doll. To be used and then discarded. And some women are able to withdraw a sense of respect and pride out of that... but those are the people that are just into sex and as a prostitute there isn't exactly a shortage of that.
For you, there are better options. Ones that will raise your self-worth and self-respect.
Whatever you do, I wish you only the best of everything.
Flynn 24
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (31 July 2010):
 At your age it will be illegal so please don't consider it.
There will certainly be something else you're good at. Give a shot at a job in a mall or as a waitress or something. There's got to be SOMETHING out there.
When you're 20-21, you can re-evaluate whether you want to be an escort.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (31 July 2010):
 Daffy, I'm pretty open minded about this sort of thing. Someone I love was an escort for a while and I have another friend who still is. For the right person at the right stage in your life being an escort can work very well BUT at your age and in your situation there is a significant danger that you are going to be exploited. If there is anything else you can do then do that.
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