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writes: Argh! Please save me! I have no idea what to do with myself. my bf broke up with me in January, and i was completely and utterly in love with him, more than i've ever been in my life. He's been with this other girl since we broke up, and i've been severely depressed, desperately wanting him back and becoming bitter and twisted towards her. But they broke up on Saturday, and i think he's trying to come back to me. this is where i need the advice; i may just be so desparate to be with him again that i'm twisting things in my head so that they are as i want them to be, and he's not after me at all. I had a missed call on my phone yesterday, a local number that i didn't recognise. he is the only person I can think it could be, I've been through everyone i know with the local phone code. i doubt it would be a wrong number, as it was the local code. It's not his home number as i know it, but i'm not sure if he still lives at home, as last time we spoke he said his parents were threatening to kick him out because he couldn't get himself a job. Then today he turned up outside my school for the first time since we broke up. It was wierd, because he wasn't meeting anybody, he was just lurking with some friends (actually within the school grounds), then i saw him go home. He didn't see me.Am i reading things all wrong? Is it just my imagination that this is happening? please tell me what you think. I want this guy to be happy more than anything, even if it means sacrificing my own happiness. i'm trying so hard not to get my hopes up about this, but I'd be so happy if he wants me back.
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (10 May 2006):
 I'm sorry to say but i think your reading until to it too deeply it sounds like a few harmless coincidences. i know personally that it's hard to get over someone you love but hanging on the idea that you two are going to be together isnt going to help you.
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reader, Gryphon +, writes (9 May 2006):
 I don't want to be the one that rains on your parade, but I am currently working through a very similar experience and the one thing I have learned from all of this is that if you dwell on past emotions they will always get the better of you. The best thing I think you can do for yourself is to try and move on. I know it's going to be miserable because quite frankly I've been depressed more in the last month than I ever thought possible, but to constantly cling to the hope that you will get back together again is only going to hurt you in the end. I'm not saying he won't try and get back together with you, but if he does try you must let him be the one to initiate it and not try to read into the situation. If he wants you back, he must be willing to say he messed up and then try to get you back - if he is not willing to address the issue straight up then he is doing nothing more than toying with your feelings.
My heart goes out to you and I wish you peace, but do not sacrifice your emotional wellbeing for someone else; because in the end nobody will get anything out of it and you will be deeply scarred for having tried. I wish you the best of luck - please keep us posted.
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