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writes: hi im haveing a serious problem im 14 and turning 15 i think i might be a lezbian because im haveing strang feeling tords girls that arent that normal like liking them more than a friend i think im in love with my best friend and she and i kissed this passed friday just telling each other good bye like always but i got butterflys how do i tell her or should i i still like guys thow so what am i? please help me !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): Well I think that it depends if you like guys because if you do then you might be bi. Also you shouldn't have to like guys. Plus what does it matter if ur bi, lez or whatever its more who the person is not their gender. Well that's my 2 cents.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2006): well dont label yourself yet there is nothing wrong with having feelings for other women i mean i was in a relationship with a man and i could not stop thinking about my best mate and having fantasies that i thought were wrong but me and my best mate kissed about 1 year ago i had butterflys and she then told me she had liked me for some time and i told her how i felt i thought it mite of wreaked our friendship but we were ok so i finished with my boyfriend and started a relationship with my friend its amazing i love her to bits i cant imagine my life without her we are now planning on getting married i cant wait to call her my wife
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2006): If you are attracted to a female friend now, you may continue to be attracted to females all your life. So, take the necessary time to find out for yourself; don't try to make a snap decision. If you aren't yet certain of your sexual identity, eventually you will be. Don't make this into a question of whether or not you should like boys. Not all females do, and that is perfectly okay.
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reader, DragonLadie32 +, writes (2 May 2006):
 Confusedgirl16996, at 14 you are in for alot of strange feelings, and relax it is normal for young girls to try out the lesiban approach with their best friends. You see friendship is a form of love, and where there is love there is attraction! You have your life ahead of you and if you truely are a lesiban then you will know right now I would say that it is a case of your hormones kicking in and the first real love that they feel is the love and trust with your bestfriend! So My dear just relax and take your time, you see all females have tried lesibanism with their bestfriends because they are the first act and feeling of love. I was 13 and my bestfriend and I experamented alot and that is normal I still had crushes on guys and I still had my bestfriend to teach me what to do with those guys. My bestfriend taught me how to kiss and flirt and it was comfortable for her to do this because I loved her and she loved me. Now as for telling her you have to stop and think how this could change things between you and her (if she does not feel the same). I would slowly bring up in conversation about how you were watching a movie and saw these 2 chicks making out and she how she responds then that will show you if it is safe to proceed in telling her your thoughts and feelings. So you need to see what her views are on it b4 it costs you a bestfriend. My suggestion Dear ConfusedGirl is this don't be in a rush to say that you are a lesiban just remember that all females (okay most) have had a lesiban experance in their life and normally it is with thier bestfriends. Just fell out the situation b4 it costs you a friendship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2006): not to sound patronising but i think a lot of girls go through this at your age. when i was 15 i got really drunk and ended up having lesbian sex with my best friend. i never really regretted it but i don't think it was the smartest thing i ever did. when you're young and establishing sexual feelings it's easy to see a really close friend as something more. the butterflies you describe are most probably the result of the joy at having such a good friend, nothing more. there's obviously a chance you could be gay but i don't think i have a single female friend who didn't have doubts about their sexuality at this age. i think the best thing to do is to resume the realtionship with your friend as purely that- friends. even if you do decide you have feelings for girls it seems a shame to jeopardise the relationship you have with your friend. i don't think you should worry too much about your sexuality at this point, you have plenty of time to experiment and realise what you really want. my advice is to go with the flow- don't try and live up to peoples expectations by doing what you feel you 'should' do, just have fun. and if this friend is so special then hold onto her- as a FRIEND!! hope this helped x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2006): Hi,well your young, and still very much discovering yourself, but i would have to say that you sound like a bi-sexual as you like people of both sexes, as for telling your friend, has she given you any signal that she may be that way inclined? if not, it would probably be best not to tell her, as this may cause problems in the friendship you do have.
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reader, zer0_5um +, writes (2 May 2006):
All I can say is that you should stop and think about how you feel. You ARE young and your body is likely to be doing all sorts of things to your mind.
There is nothing wrong in having feelings for another, either gender, but the thing that will really harm you is supressing your personality and desires. If you really do feel for your friend, and not for boys, then I suggest reading up on indroductions to same-sex relationships.
However, and this is critical, remember that you are YOUNG and that anything you do may lead to very awkward social situations, and may be illegal, so slow down and play it cautiosly.
If you can find out what her opinion of same-sex relationships is, as a hypothetical (harder to do than it sounds, people pick up on things I'm afraid) then you might have more data upon which to act.
Whatever happens and how it works out, Blesséd Be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2006): You are still very young and many girls and boys have feelings for the same sex, i dont think you should tell her just yet because when your young you go through many phases, and fancy a lot of different people, its all about growing, and im sure you will know definately when you meet that someone special. You are young so dont jump in and do not try and mark yourself right away, take the time to really find out who you are.
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