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writes:I've know this guy for about 2yrs, we met at my job (I work at a bank and he deposits there). Even though I've known him for 2 yrs, we started talking about a year ago. We get along well. we sort of have the same sense of humor so when we are around each other we always laugh and make fun of one another. He teases me about certain things and what not. He does joke around with the other people that work there but I get the feeling that with me its slightly different. When we talk he's always looking at me and when he says goodbye he looks me right in the eyes (it's just sort of hard to explain the feeling I get when he does this)it's almost like the only person he's seeing is me right then. I also started to realize that he notices and mentions stuff about me, like if I'm in a bad mood he'll ask if someone at the job upset me. One time, he showed me a picture of one of his sister's friends and asked if me and said friend were related because she reminded him of me. If I do something different to my hair, he'll say something about it. The other day I had on some lipstick and I realized he was starring at me, a lot , when all the customers left he straight up asked me WHY I was so made-up and when I went to point out that I wasn't, it was only lipstick, he sort of rolled his eyes at me in a playful way and told me not to play him like that because in all the years he's known me, he's never seen me wear lipstick (exaggeration on his part because I have worn both makeup and lipstick to work). And in the two years I've worked there I definitely haven't seen him act that way with any of my coworkers. Even some of my coworkers have had some choice comments about us, one of them asked me if me and him were going out. Another one went to tell me something about him and called him my favorite customer, and one of the girls that work with me has asked me if I have a crush on him. So I guess my questions are; am I getting mixed signals from him or does he just really like me as a friend and I'm the obvious one with the crush. The thing is, he has a girlfriend and I know that I shouldn't be crushing on someone in a relationship. Even though he doesn't talk about her, even when one my coworkers asks him a question, he'll answer it but will soon change the subject and up until recently he didn't even have a picture of both of them together as his profile picture. I know that neither piece of information means much and even though I've never been in a serious relationship I know that every guy/girl acts differently when in a relationship. It's just that he gives off the vibe that he's indifferent even though to be completely honest I've never seen the two of them together so I don't know if this is true. The thing is I just want to be less confused about this situation. I know that liking someone can sometimes lead to believing something that isn't necessarily there. And if that's the case I will definitely accept that maybe I'm just reading into the situation too much but I hate this feeling of confusion of not knowing what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2012): Yea I'd say he likes you for sure. :) Guys don't notice things such as lipstick, with woman they are not into. If they do, they rarely mention it. I know because I am a guy. He has a gf, and yes I would say he is off limits, but that doesn't stop him from crushing on you. People want what they can't have, so I think he thinks you are off limits, because of where you work. I would be intimidated to ask out my bank teller. Would she get in trouble?
Its normal to have little crushes when you are in a relationship, the thinking the grass might be greener on the other side. But I would be careful to get involved with someone who is already involved. If you know what I mean.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 December 2012):
 Doesn't matter, he should be off limits if he has a GF.
Treat him like you would ( I hope) if he was married.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2012): He is flirting with you. You might be one of his options if he breaks up with his gf.
It's a possibility.
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