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writes:I have just moved to a new school where everyone else knows each other and am finding it difficult to get to know any fun people and fit in, especially as they are not particularly welcoming. How can I "get in there" with people so that they make an effort to speak to me, or invite me out at the weekends? x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2008): Hi - I've just started at a new school 3 weeks ago. I found it easy to get friends because i acted as myself, and not as a role i choose to be my "New school role" as i did before i changed school. Be relaxed, funny and helpful - best advice i can give ^^
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reader, Daniela2 +, writes (7 September 2008):
Go to summer programs in your new school before the beginning of the year, if possible. It's a great way to make friends even before school starts!
Find one person you think would make a good friend and go talk to them. Once you make one friend then it gets much easier.
Meet their other friends and make a good impression. Make friends with them, and you should have a group you can always hang with.
Avoid being shy and sticky. Talk to the person next to you and try to spark up a little conversation, but don't try too hard as you might scare people off.
Try your best to stay away from bullies; bullies always have it in for the new kid. But if a bully does come at you, stand up for your self. The bully just might have a problem thats making him upset, and he/she should not take it out on you. Don't be mean, just stand up for your self!
Dress nicely. You don't want to set a bad impression, especially when people are just starting to know you. So look your best just don't try too hard.
Avoid bullies.
Some new kids are subjected to 'welcoming' pranks, so be prepared for anything.
Try to avoid the "Hello. My name is so and so. Will you be my friend?" This is an implication that this person is not popular, and extremely desperate. If you're stuck with them, it can be harder to stop being their friend, and it will come back to haunt you. Instead, try just coming up and saying "Hi, I'm so and so. Nice to meet you."
Learn peoples names
Be yourself don't try to be someone you're not.
Try not to get split between two groups of friends. Find a core group and stick with it. From there meet everyone else and be friendly to everyone.
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