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writes:I'm 15.Ready for sex emotionally and physically. But the one thing holding me back is that i am absolutly terrified about getting pregnant. I am not one of these teenagers who dont care and will do it drunk without realising. I know i am one year under the legal sex age but to be honest i don't know anyone who hasn't had sex at 15 and hasn't come out completely fine.How do i get over my fear of getting pregnant. I am scared a condom won't be enough although my friends only use a condom and dont take the pill.I also dont want to go to get the pill as my doctor has known me all my life and i just wouldn't be comfortable as he's known my mother for years. Please answer soon xxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2007): I would like to add one thing...google RISK FACTORS FOR CERVICAL CANCER and you will get a load of information and one reason that you should wait to have sex until you are older.
Your young AGE makes you at a greatly increased risk of contracting HPV which leads to deadly cervical cancer, it is not the number of partners that cause it, it is having sex at a young age before your body has fully matured, and your immune system is not so vulnerable to your fluctuating hormones. Don't do it for this reason alone, you surely are not willing to risk your life or the lives of your yet to be born children for a few minutes of sex.
By the way sex at your age is highly overrated, it is usually with a fumbling boy who knows nothing about your body let alone his, and does not know how to take care of your emotional needs...and most likely will dump you after you do the deed......wait until you are older around 20 would be ideal, wait until you are in love with someone and they are committed to only you, you will be so glad you did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2007): Brook Advisory Centres have their own website - google it -there's some very interesting information in there, and some fun quizzes too. Trust me, you'll learn a great deal from it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2007): first off let me tell you right now there are alot of people who have not had sex at 15 and since you don't know any, here i am, you can call me Tiff and i waited until i was 18 years old...don't think it was because i didn't have a boyfriend either i did and still do and i am turning out perfectly fine !!! I think that if your not comfortable talking to a parent or a role modle about using a condom or getting the pill then you are NOT ready to have sex.....you might think your ready to have sex but until your comfortable talking about it with a parent of even your doctor then your not!!! The best way to get over your fear is to be upfront about it...take your mom aside one day and tell her the thing your thinking trust me its not all that bad and it will be the only way to stop being afraid...i did use just a condom right before i went on the pill and trust me again the pill will make you feel SO much safer about geting pregnant...but still use a condom for other reasons (STD's and stuff like that) I hope i helped a little -good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2007): When you see your doctor, anything that is said between the two of you is absolutely totally 100% confidential.
It is more than his job is worth to discuss you or your treatment with anyone else - even your mother - except in a professional capacity -ie. another doctor.
Don't take any risks. Go and make an appointment with him or at your local Brook Advisory Centre - you'll find them in the phone book.
Anyway, I'm sure that if your mother is a responsible parent and thought you were contemplating having sex, she would march you off to the surgery to be put on the pill in any case!
Phil
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