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writes:hey, i've been with my boyfriend since june 11, 2008, and we've been friends for 10 years. i'm 13 now. the thing is i was fine talking to him before we started dating, but now i'm all shy around him! i don't know what to do. people say that we were better off as friends, but when you're friends this long with someone, it's easier to date them. so does anybody have advise for me?
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (25 June 2008):
 I'd say you're feeling shy because you don't know how to apporach him now that you're more than just friends - you feel like you have to act like a 'girlfriend', and you don't know how to go about that. (I could be completely wrong here, though).
If this is the case, just realize that nothing has to change now that you are dating. You don't have to act or feel differently. You've known each other for so long that there's no need to try and impress one another - just keep acting how you've always acted around him, it's obviously worked so far, since you're dating now.
But keep in mind that just because you've been friends with someone for a long time doesn't necessarily mean you have to date them. Sometimes, people /are/ better off as friends - maybe there's just not the right chemistry there.
Good luck to you. =)
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