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female
age
41-50,
*lou oog
writes:Hi Iam a mother of 3 kids 2 daugters from previous marrage age 16 and 17 I was engage for 15 years I broke the engagement 6 months ago I have a son of 4 years with this man While I was still engage with him I met this man it's about 7 months ago he now what is going on in my life he even told me that he can not believe that I am staying in this relationship where my ex dont't respect me or the kids. Well my ex wasen't the man any more that I used to know the pass year he ferbuly abused me and my two daugters and he dont care who is in the same room as we are About 5 months ago he almost hit my younger daughter if I din't step infront of him then he would'ef hit her with his fist. Then a few days after that he invited a few friends over for a drink He suspected that I see somebody else but didn't now for sure. He told one of his friends that he will take out 5 poeple I didn't knew at first what he ment by that and after a while I realised maybe he was talking about me, him and the three kids. And it came to me he had a unlicens gun I went to his closet and I took all the bullets from the gun I was so afraid so in the morning he didn't go to sleep as yet he came to the bed and said if I saw you with ather man I will kill both of you becouse if I can not have you nobody will. So I moved out I got a flat for me and the kids we are staying now about 1 month there but I still see my ex like every day. He wants to know my every move if I'am at work he is phoning to hear if I'am here if I'am going to town he wants to now what time I would be back and where I'am going Then he would sent somebody to see if I am realy at that place. I now it was wrong for me to see somebody else while I was still with him but the real reason is he didn't let me feel like a woman more than his maid and whore. I missed that words that says I love you or you look realy pretty today not what he says you look like a whore. We have a bussiness panelbeating and its on my name The 2 cars are on my name The house is in my name so basically everything is on my name I dont'nt want to take it away from him I will compremise but he said that if I'am not in his life then there is nothing left for him. But then I was thinking why he waited so long to even ask me to marry me. He actually did'nt even ask me. Now he say I must stop working and move back to him. So I'am asking for as many answers as posible What must I do Must I move back to him and try to work things out or must I move on with my life. Please I'am desprate for any help. Me and the kids went even for counciling my ex don't want to go becouse he say's there is nothing wrong with him why must he go.
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (8 October 2008):
 Do not go back and consult a lawyer right away. Never go back to a man that you fear might kill you and your children!!! Talk to a lawyer about legally extricating yourself from this relationship. I know you are not married, but with the bussiness in your name and the house and cars, you may have some issues to work out. If it is determined that the house really is just yours then you need to evict him. You really need some legal advice. But do not go back to him and keep up the counceling.
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