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writes:ive been with my boyfriend for a year now. im just about to grad highschool...and i was preg back in nov but i lost my baby. we're both happy, but now i really feel like it was my fault that i lost the baby. because i had told a friend and he didnt want me to be pregnant. he kept pushing on my stomach (i was only maby a month preg). at first i wasnt going to keep it but then decided i would. he's going to be moving in with me in dec maby earlier. and we've been engaged for 9 months. he wants to start working on one again after i grad. but idk because honestly imm still not over my 1st baby....should i wait? because at some point i really do want another one but i just dont know
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2009): I fell pregnant during my final year exams. There is no hurry for you to fall pregnant especially since you are still grieving for the baby you lost.
My advice is to establish a little bit of stability in your life before you try falling pregnant, if it happens then it's meant to be. Moving in together is a big step. You first have to get used to each others habits, a baby adds so much more pressure to that. When you feel you are ready to try again then try again.Don't feel pressurised to do anything your not ready for.
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reader, Priyalee +, writes (3 January 2009):
I think you should wait. When I was in high school all I wanted was my boyfriend to be my husband and to have babies. We did it and have been together for ten years now. I love him and my kids but because of our decision it was harder for us to go to college which in turn created many financial problems. We are just now able to save money! Plus we missed out on all of the fun 20's experiences and college experiences. Just think it through. Leaving high school is just the beginning of your life.
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reader, BRITTBABII2 +, writes (3 January 2009):
Ok, well I think if you do decide that you want a baby definitely wait until after you graduate. You need to go to college too because babies are expensive and you want to bring your child into a world where you and your boyfriend don't have to struggle looking for food and diapers. Formula is verryyyyyy expensive and working at a job that you work at now can't support a family
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reader, Western3589 +, writes (3 January 2009):
 If you have plans for college or somthing after you grad a baby is not somthing you should consider. If not you should really reccomend some college or somthing its better than nothing. But if you just want to have the baby then do it. But here is the truth, if you guys were in it for sex and you dont share a good emotional and social reletionship. Then a baby is the last thing you want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): Honey, I don't think your ready for another baby, there is no hurry, you can have a baby later. Of course you still need time to get over your first pregnancy, rushing and having another baby is not a good idea. Concentrate on your education, and getting a good job. Then start to put money down, that way things will be easier when you do decide to get pregnant. Your friend didn't hurt the baby, these things happen sometimes, a lot of women miscarry, it just means that baby wasn't ready to be born. Next time it will be different. Don't worry, your very young, concentrate on other area's of your life first, you can start to think about babies in a year or so. Good luck
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