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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm struggling to work out what to do with this guy. We were together a few years ago for over a year and I've not been able to get over him since we split up. Around Christmas time he told me he still had feelings for me and no longer felt for the girl he split up with me for even though they broke up a few months prior to him telling me this. Ever since he and I have spoken practically every day, so it's been almost 4 months since he told me he felt for me, yet hasn't done anything about it. He used to tell me he wanted to come to visit me at university but hasn't yet. Am I wasting my time with him or should I keep pursuing in the hope that one day we'll eventually get back together? He hasn't seen anyone since he told me, though I was seeing someone briefly and he seemed jealous, though it didn't last. I'm really not sure what to do anymore xxx
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reader, PerhapsNot  +, writes (5 April 2012):
 He is showing all the signs of being disinterested.
1. He dumped you for another woman
2. He tells you he misses you AFTER he breaks up with a woman
3. He is not visiting you
In short: he is just not that into you....if at all. You need to look at the big picture here, not what he is saying. Words mean nothing when he can't back it up with actions. When he dumped you for another woman and started conveniently talking to you after that relationship failed - that should have been your clue. He knows you're desperate and that you want him. And he can dump you, get you back and do nothing to keep your love. You need to cut contact and move on.
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