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age
26-29,
*rns96
writes: I'm a freshman and if you've read my last few questions, you know about my girlfriend, Dana. Dana and I broke up recently and I am heartbroken. I've regretted a break up, I've been hurt over a break up. But nothing I have ever endured after a break up compares to pain like this. I mope around school, my grades are already dropping, I don't even attempt flirt with anyone (this is hugely abnormal for me as I am extremely flirtatious). I believe Dana may be feeling similarly, as she is not as loud or fun as only days ago. The day before out split, Dana professed that she loved me. This is huge deal for the both of us for personal reasons. However, our break up was facilitated by a series of terribly timed and slightly extreme events. In other words, my pregnant ex (not my baby! we've never even seen each other topless!), hurting best friend, insane ex, and brutish enemy caused the downfall of our relationship. We broke up because those events as a whole made Dana feel overwhelmed (as all the events were directly linked to me and/or my past) and me feel bad for putting her through it. So we split and we're depressed, though fully convinced we should not be together. How do we cope? How do I live normally when every time I see Dana I feel regret in the form of a wretched cold cannonball in my gut, threatening to climb out of me via my throat?! I'm going insane, help me. I've never loved aomebody as fully as I love Dana.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010): ~HONESTY~LOVE is the most beautiful blessing of all. Never abuse it to deprive, manipulate, hurt or torment another.That you are refraining from informing Dana that you love her means you are abusing it by depriving Dana of honesty which can only sustain or enhance her quality of life. Equally, you are abusing it by unnecessarily and ridiculously tormenting yourself by wastefully toiling between telling her, hence honesty, or deceit, hence selfishly hoarding it from her. Additionally, you are tormenting yourself by depriving yourself of the happiness that anxiously awaits to ensue upon unveiling your love truth to Dana.You nor I can accurately predict Dana's response...however...be it good or bad both she and you will benefit, as you selflessly, honestly and truthfully professed your love to Donna and Donna's will charge ((with or without you)) stimulating the voltage charge she received from your beautiful truth. Now...call her and tell her your truth. ~LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO TINKER WITH LOVE~
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010): obviously.. dana is the one.. you should really tell her.. and give her time.. if she really does feel the same way then she'll tell you.. but if she's over u then she'll ignore u.. it may hurt now but u'll most likly feel better within a couple of months when a better girl comes along.. but if ur nervous to tell her u still love her then call her just dont do it through text.. and dont feel bad about anything.. u love her.. u need to go get her bak!:)
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