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anonymous
writes:I have been respecting my exes no contact rule by being invisible as I can. For years I have anxiety wherever I go and whoever I go out with. I'm so stressed my ex will see me and that she will think that I moved on. I want to be a man and serve the sentence she gave me so that we can have an acquaintanceship again and I can visit my dog Windsor (man's best friend)...She has him. I know that she went NC for herself and not to punish me but it's been so long and I'm still in exile! Everyday I remember how bad I acted with her and that I deserve this and that I have to be strong and do what she wants and disappear totally but it's killin me. I can do the vanishing act part but not the getting over her part. I think if I respect her wishes of leaving her alone long enough and if I hide from all public places it will make things better. How long does this take??? When will I at least get an email or somethin?-TM
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2012): I'm not trying to be harsh or anything, but it says you are 30-35, so doesn't it seem a little juvenile to be doing this? It's immature on her part to expect you to turn into a fly on the wall just so she doesn't have to see you. It was a relationship, it ended, move on! You shouldn't have to hide and turn into a hermit because she wants you to. People break up all the time, but that doesn't mean the whole world goes into hiding so they don't see their exes. These things happen, you run into people sometimes that you don't want to; and you get over it. You're grown, she's grown, act grown up about it. It makes no sense for her to expect you to seclude yourself from society just because the two of you broke up. As for you not being able to get over her, well, you obviously weren't meant to be together, or you'd still be with her. Getting over significant others may take some time, and you may always miss her. It seems like the majority of your remorse of ya'll breaking up is the fact that you feel you hurt her a lot. You can't beat yourself up about things that happened in the past, or you'd never be able to get over it and be happy. Forgive yourself! People make mistakes and they learn from them and they MOVE ON!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (7 May 2012):
 She might not WANT an acquaintanceship with you, ever, can you accept and respect that?
Now if the dog was yours, why does she have it? Or was it a shared dog?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2012): Dude, let her go. No one should be putting their life on hold for years like you have for her.
Years...
How many has it been?
Please stop acting all stalkerish.
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