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writes:I need a guys point of view.... I'm 19 years old and I haven't met the right guy although I'm talking to one right now and I'm hoping he's the one I'm really into him... I'm still a virgin what do you guys think of my situation and how do I let him know without sounding immature or feeling uncomfortble??
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2007): hey you know something, you should be proud to be a virgin, yeah you might like this guy and if he thinks badly of you because you're a virgin it just means he is way too immature and definately doesnt deserve you, if anything guys like when girls are virgins i know my boyfriend does, it lets them feel more secure about who thye are dating. really if a guy would be that shallow and think differently of you because you arent as permiscuous as other girls and you're virgin, they need MAJOR growing up to do. nothing is wrong about being a virgin, if anything its probably a good thing, im 17 and im still a virgin and i plan to be till marriage. but like i said, dont give into guys rude remarks or manipulations because really, those type of guys are definately not worth your time!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2007): You are 19 and still a virgin, and you haven't met the right guy, but you hope the one you are talking to is the "one" and how do you tell him you are a virgin without sounding immature or feeling uncomfortable?
First off, 19 is not TOO OLD to be a virgin, if that is what you are feeling uncomfortable about. You do not have an expiration date, and any quality guy will not pressure you for sex, nor will he be put off by you saying you are a virgin and want to wait to have sex... If he really really likes you, he will be happy just being in your prescence and sharing your company.
How you know he is the "one" is that over time you build a relationship based on friendship, trust and respect...then passion and love will grow....when you feel secure and safe in his affections for you, then you may want to have sex if you think you are in love....I personally, think you should wait until you are a bit older for health reasons as well as emotional ones.
Having sex at a young age makes you at risk for certain STD's and the most deadly of which is HIV and cervical cancer (condoms protect against HIV, but not cervical cancer). Your risks go down for cervical cancer after you are fully mature, 21 or so for most girls....and the emotional aspects of having sex are quite profound, and you need to be sure you are emotionally mature enough to handle them and all the responsibilitiies of having sex, including the risk of having an unwanted pregnancy....
So, all in all, your least concern is how this current fellow will think of you if you tell him you are a virgin. What you should always ask yourself is how you feel about him, is he treating you with respect, and showing you with his actions, not his words, that he wants to be with you and has your best interests at heart.
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