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writes:Hi,this will probably sound quite trivial compared to some of the posts i've been reading here but i can't really discuss it with anyone i know so any advice would be a real help. I left my partner back in november and accepted my workmate julies offer of a room until i got back on my feet,my ex was a gambler and had spent my savings.at first her fella dave seemed great but one saturday night,when he came home from a night out the worse for wear,and julie was still out with the girls,he started messing around like a teenager.at first he just kept saying that i never went out,i was trying to save,then he said i needed to chill out and have a laugh more then,out of the blue,he just reached over and started tickling my feet.i nearly jumped through the ceiling with surprise and pulled them away but he just pounced on me and continued.since then he's done it at least every week or two and it's now reached the point where i tense up whenever he's near me,especially if he's had a few drinks.julie's never around when he does it but several times now he's tickled her feet in front of me and i'm sure it's some kind of sexual kink he's got.if he did it in a playful way i wouldn't mind so much,when he does it to julie it lasts a minute or two,when he's tickling my feet though it can last for ages and twice recently he's actually made me wet myself slightly from laughing so much.i don't want to upset julie by saying anything about it,he's never tried anything on with me or anything,it just seems to be my feet he's fascinated with,but i worry that soon he'll do it so much i'll either not be able to breath or will lose control and ruin their settee or carpet.any ideas about how to sort the situation out would be much appreciated,thanks,jean. Reply to this Question
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reader, Jeanmann +, writes (2 April 2007):
Jeanmann is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for taking the time to reply.i know the panicky feeling you described birdynumnums,there's been a couple of occasions lately where julies gone clubbing and he knows she books a taxi with her friends for 2am so he's come in at 11'sh and has actually teased me about doing it one night until she's due to come back.so far he's done it for about 10-15 minutes on a few occasions and it's left me shattered,each time he starts now i'm wondering if it's the night he's going to just go on and on.i've told him several times now how ticklish i am on my feet,and that i can't handle it when he keeps going,i even told him the spots i found especially ticklish and asked him to avoid them more,but if anything he seems to concentrate on my arches and toes even more since i asked him not to.i've shrieked for him to stop like you've suggested but he just traps my feet and carries on,i've even kept my shoes on indoors but he just pulls them off.as a last resort i suppose i could mention it to julie but knowing my luck i'd end up homeless with a workmate who doesn't speak to me anymore.em ponungalungb..trust me,having someone physically trap my feet then tickle the life out of them for 10-15 at a time is not the kind of attention i enjoy,lol,thanks for the reply anyway though.short of taking a crash course in kung fu or something i think i may be stuck with his aggrevating ways until i can afford to move,which is still june or july if i'm lucky.any other thoughts would be much appreciated,jean.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (1 April 2007):
 When tickling gets to the point where you are feeling tortured, it is abusive. When I was raising my kids, there would occasionally be adults that would tickle them until they were getting panicky. I would step in and rescue them by telling the adult to stop it and recognize that they were making them feel horrible. The fact that you are tensing up whenever he is around points to the discomfort level that he has put you in. If you think he a foot fetish as well, he should only be handling his girlfriends feet. It might be a domination or control thing too. All of which point to the fact that he has crossed the line by touching you in the first place. Put your foot down! Don't worry about his feelings, the next time he reaches for your foot, scream NO and tell him play time is over. Never let anyone do anything to you that makes you feel uncomfortable. You are also running the risk of upsetting your girlfriend by allowing this to continue, so the sooner you stand up and put an end to this, the better. Good Luck and Wear Cowboy Boots!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2007): it seems as though he sorta likes you unless hes just having a mess around... ask him why he is doing this.. is he attracted to you? or is it just harmless fun? if he is attracted then it is best to tell your friend and if its nothing just tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable. Simple :D
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (1 April 2007):
 The easiest way to sort it out would be to say, "Stop tickling my feet or I'll tell Julie." That should end the torture. It seems as though you kind of enjoy the attention. Yes? No?
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