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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I am engaged to a man i've dated and lived with for over 7.5 yrs he just recently asked me to marry him... after a long wait i had given up. but for a little over a yr. there has been some relationship troubles. i didnt even want to marry anymore like i used to. then since middle of last year before he proposed i was seriously thinking about breaking up with him. i be friended a man younger than i. we have not done any wrong doing except maybe emotionally cheating. i feel so comfortable around him ... we have same looks on life and values and laugh. he has certain traits (support for example) that i am looking for and these traits that my friend has my boyfriend ( i still can't call him fiance) not so quite. but it's always nice in the beginning part of any relationship. but I am starting to think i am engaged to a wrong man.but my fiance is trying to understand where i am coming from, as i am to his. however, i am not sure if that's enough. there are major things like his negative personality and his action or lack of it when it comes to showing me he loves me. I feel like his way of supporting me does not really comfort me as i think he also feels that way about me. we feel unappreciated and we bicker a lot. when we are in a stressful incident we break down and create a huge fight and more stress. i think he is trying to change but i think he is not comfortable with it. and he has told me many time he is walking on egg shell for me and all i do is nag, i don't like him and i am never happy with anything. we almost broke the engagement but the next few days of crying we decided to really try harder. However, my friend is on my mind. is this worth saving? i am so confused that i am asking a website to help? my heart should be sooo thrill to be finally engaged to a man that is my best friend and lover, but now i question it because of some major things we keep fighting about. support and personality. which to me is are big deal and i believe that you really can't change that. and this other friend is stepping up to the plate ... what should i do?
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