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writes:I have had 3 loves in my life. Only 2 I dated and one was my best friend, which during a few times with my exs, I still had feelings for. I was so sure about these men being the one for me. I spent countless nights talking/imagining having kids and getting married. but I broke it off with my exs, and my best friend never returned feelings for me. I now have someone who loves me unconditionally, and I feel like I feel nothing. I feel like a part of me is scared. Why don't I feel anything powerful? Why do I doubt all the time? This time it could be real and I'm not sure if I have love or not. I have thought numerous times that the guys i dated were the one. Now i'm not so sure that it means anymore. I am so confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt all sounds like a trust issue right? But I was the one who broke it off with my other exs. I hurt them. Am I still having trust issues if I was the one that ended the relationships?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah, a big part of me is that I'm scared he is not the one. I broke up with my previous boyfriends, who were both exclusive and I dated them for a couple years. The 1st guy I broke up with was simply because I didn't love him anymore. I was starting to like other guys and I was only 18 and have been dating him for 3 years. The other guy I broke it off with because 1. we fought all the time, and 2. I was falling for my best friend. Then after that I was single for a couple years. But I have wanted someone like this for so long but I get scared that i'll look back years later and wish I would have dated around more. But when I think about dating around, I feel like its pointless because I already found the love I want. There should be no reason to give this up because he treats me so well and has been with me through all the tough times. I just get this anxious feeling in my stomach but I'm not sure what it's stemming from.
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