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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I seem to attract nothing but jerks, even though I'm a good person and never cheat. I'm so sick to death of being screwed over in relationships. I've tried therapy but hasn't given me any answers. It seems like a waste of money- that I don't have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): I know what you mean, I have met a few in my time. The way around it is to stop being so nice once they have let you down! Be yourself...a nice, non cheating person BUT set rules and boundaries. And if they are overstepped, show the jerk to the door pronto. It is the only way any of us can weed out the time wasters. As soon as they show they are jerks, get rid of them and dont waste ages trying to fix things with them or trying to forgive them.
If you fast track through the jerks quick smart, you will discover a good guy sooner. It is getting distracted and hung up on the jerks that makes it feel as if you will never find a good guy. So stop being nice to them! Once they have let you down, give em the bums rush fast and dont waste any time dwelling on them. They simply arent worth it x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt seems being a nice person isn't what guys want though. It males me wonder when my exes friends ate all two faced jerks, yet these people ate somehow married and I'm not?
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (6 June 2012):
One question -
Do you seem to ATTRACT jerks - or is it the case you seem to be ATTRACTED to jerks?
For some reason, I have found many woman in your age range become attracted to the "bad boy" type, then wonder why they keep getting screwed over. If this is the case, look no further to find your answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): I don't know how therapy would help, because you are who you are which is a nice person (your words), so you don't need to change and jerks are just jerks and therapy won't change that either. I would stop with the therapy if its wasting your money and time, (you could spend that on a dating site membership with a good reputation). Its usually the case with nice genuine and honest people, others push the boundaries because they know they can get away with it.Maybe try a more zero tolerance attitude (as I have, I have the same as you when it comes to being treated like a doormat) no second chances, don't drop everything as soon as someone says so etc... It helps you to become a stronger person and shows that you have self respect, and its a good feeling you get used to, as oppose to being treated like a mug :)
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