I'm so hurt! B/f broke up with me by text from a phone I can't text or call back on!

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend dumped me today and i am devastated!. I haven't stopped crying all day. He dumped me by a text message. It was very abrupt, and he didn't give an explanation. He didn't even dump me from his own phone. It was from a BT payphone. I haven't seen those before, but there was no number with it, so i couldn't text or call him back. He said " From ( his name ): I don't want to see you again ". I think it's really cruel that he dumped me by text and that he sent it from a number where i wouldn't be able to text or call him!. He sent it first thing this morning too, so i think it's really cruel that he wanted that to be the first thing i saw when i woke up!!. I hadn't seen him since Monday, but he seemed fine then. He even talked about asking the council if i could move in with him . He lives in a rented house.We had a laugh together and we were cuddling and kissing a lot on Monday. He thought i was going to my dad's house the next day, and he even asked me to say hello to my dad for him. We had been talking about him going to my dad and stepmum's flat soon too. He met my dad and stepmum once, and he said he thought they were really nice. He has bipolar disorder, by the way, so he might be in a depressed mood because of that, and because he doesn't have much money. He is on disability benefits, and he has had to make an appeal to keep his benefits, and once, last week, he told me he was fed up because he couldn't take me out anywhere. Do you think i should just not contact him and see if he contacts me?. Also, it still says that we are in a relationship with each other on our statuses on facebook. Do you think i should remove that and remove him from my friends list, or should i keep it on incase he changes his mind?. We usually keep intouch on facebook as well, but it doesnt look liek he has been on facebook all week, as he hasn't posted anything on his profile since Monday. I'm not sure if i've missed anything out. It's been difficult to write this as i have been crying a lot. It hurts as well because i usually go to his house on a Friday night and stay for the weekend, and it's Friday night now here in the UK. I'm also unemployed, and don't have many friends, and don't see many family members either, so i have a lot of time to dwell on this. I know it helps to keep busy , but i'm not sure what i will be able to do to take my mind off it ?. Also, he only lives a 20 minute walk away from my house, and it's tempting to go round to his house, but i know that i can't. If he does get intouch though, i want to tell him that i think it's cruel that he sent me a text, and didn't talk to me in person about it, and i might want to ask him if he will meet in person to talk about it. It hurts not knowng how he is feeling now too, whether he has been crying, or whether he doesn't care that we have finished. He always said he adores me and that i was the best thing that ever happened to him too, and it did seem like he loved me when we were together in person. If i had wanted to finish with him, i would have told him that i needed to speak to him in person, and then would have told him in person, or i would have tried to work things out in person first. There have been a few times where he has said that he hasnt wanted to see em any more when we were together in person, but a few minutes later, he apologised and said he didn't mean it and asked me to forgive him. But this is the only time he has said he doesn't want to see me through text.

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