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writes:Ok where to start. I met this really great guy, and everyday I learn something new about him. I kind of had an idea in the beginning something wasn't right with him. But you know the old saying you try not to judge the book by its cover. Well he told me something last night that really freaked me out. He told me that he was Bi and that he had sex with a gu,y and that the guy sucked him off. He asked me if I had a problem with it and I told him I was worried about AIDS. He said he used a condomn but, I am not too sure. Now, he is really freaky, he has said things to me that really scare the hell out of me. He told me he wants me to have sex with other men and don't clean up...come straight home so he can eat me out. I was very taken back by this ! I mean I thought WTH???Then when I got upset about it he told me it was a one time thing with the man, and that he is not Bi. Then he asked me if I would be his wife? I am so freaking confused right now. Is this guy right or am I just a prude? I mean WOW, I don't even know what I am asking anymore after rereading this.
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reader, melt_in_ur_mouth +, writes (28 October 2008):
melt_in_ur_mouth is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell,I really have to say I appreciate all of your GREAT advice.I know alot of people are just curious about things(same sex and so on).I do not have a problem with what he has tried.My problem is what he wanted me to do.He is gone with the wind.I could not deal with the uncertainity he was trying to bring to our relationship.To tell ya the truth,he scared me.I did alot of thinking about the situation and decided I needed more stability. I had this thought in the back of my mind of him finding someone of the same sex and not telling me he was having a relationship with this guy and myself.So,I decided to end it before it began.Thank you all for your help and for listening to me ramble on and on and on.LOL
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reader, previasc96 +, writes (28 October 2008):
Your guy experiemented with someone of the same sex and enjoyed it. He trusts you enough to share with you an experience he had that could lable him gay or bisexual. he had confidence that you would be open minded about it. He probably feels a little ashamed about it also. Just because he liked the experience, doesn't mean he's gonna go out and do it again. Tell him straight out that you are not comfortabel with him doing that stuff while he is in a relationship with you. He can't justify wanting to do it again bcuz basically it's cheating. He would be cheating on you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): you may find that if you get serious with this guy he starts asking you to sleep with other men quite often for his kicks, you can not change what he said to you. He may not be bi just odd but can you handel odd? if you marry him it wont go away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): wow - either he is a liar or a freaky type - either way I don't think that would be my choice in a spouse.
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reader, for_a_reason  +, writes (24 October 2008):
 Hmm... He definately sounds a bit bizarre - I know some guys get a kick out of 'sharing' their girlfriend with other men - but this just sounds a little bit off... Especially the sudden proposal!
Perhaps it's time to stop taking his calls!
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