Im so depressed and stressed in this life, How can I lift my spirits??

i don't know what to do. i am 22 years old and living with my boyfriend who is 29. i live at his house but his mother lives here also who is older and is a very negative person. we have been together for two years. when i first started talking to him he had a decent job and a car. a few months later he lost his job, then his car got reposessed about a year ago. he still hasn't found a job. he has looked online but says no one will hire him because of his credit score and that it would be a risk for the companies because he has absolutely no money and owes the government money from not paying back bills. every time i mention him getting a job he gets extremely angry. he is also very depressed and says that he's a loser and that i shouldn't be with him. on the other hand, i DO love him very much and he makes me happy in other ways. the only bad thing is the money situation. i am in college and work 31 hours a week (part time) and am basically supporting him. the good thing is, i don't have to pay rent here or bills. i give his mother $20 here and there, when i can. otherwise, i pay for things for myself and for him. the other problem is the house. it is pretty much falling apart and my boyfriend refuses to help me clean and his mother is disgusting when it comes to being clean. i won't mention the things she does out of privacy for her but it is horrible. the other day i was wiping off the table and she said "you shouldn't use that sponge because you might scratch the table". the table is also old and there's no way you can scratch it with an old sponge! that's just one minor example. i really don't know what to do......i have been brought up in a very hard working family and everyone is extremely clean and it is really depressing me and brings me down. when he asks me what's wrong, i don't say anything because i know it will only upset him. the other thing is, he was recently injured by a DUI incident and now cannot use his left hand AT ALL so i don't know how he will be able to get a job now. he keeps saying he is going to claim bankruptcy and now disability but he has been saying the bankruptcy thing for over a year and still has not done it. i feel like i am carrying all the weight on my shoulders and with everything else i have going on, i am getting more stressed and depressed as the days go on. he does try to keep me happy but i can't ignore the other things. i wish he would get a job but now i don't know how or if that's possbile. i know this question is long but it's very detailed and i felt the need to explain a lot to get my point across. hopefully someone has some good advice before i start going back to a therapist because i would rather not...

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