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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I'm so crap with relationships, so insecure. Is this because my dad had affairs when I was younger? However at the same time, I sometimes think I'm too good for guys, but other times in the same relationship, I feel like they are far too good for me!!! I try and drive them away, keep them at arms length so they don't hurt me or sometimes I suffocate them and become obsessed because I want them to like me then if they become TOO clingy I hate it. I feel like I'll never have a successful relationship at this rate!! please help meeeee!lol.x x x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2007): Whoa there, you are putting way too much pressure on yourself here....honestly at your young age, you really ought to enjoy being single and the whole dating process, if you put too much pressure on yourself and the guy to have a "relationship" then one will have a hard time developing....Just play it cool and a keep your feelings close to the vest....you don't have to wear your heart on your sleeve at first, and you may be pushing certain guys away for good reason, always listen to that voice inside you and if you don't feel safe with someone, then you should keep your guard up.
Mostly, I would just try to have fun and not worry about settling into a boyfriend girlfriend relationship, you have plenty of time for that and it will happen when you least expect it, usually the guy will pick you first and then you will either accept him or reject him, and he will let you know how he feels about you if you give him a chance...
I don't think it has anything to do with your Dad having affairs, although you are wise beyond your years and know that some guys are simply cheaters, and you have an advantage over other girls who are not as cautious as you are about getting in to quick with a boy before you have a chance to susch him out.
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