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writes:Im 19 years old and feb this year i met this guy in one of my university classes. hes 19 as well. The first day of class I was sitting by myself and he was too. He came up to me and asked me if i wanted to work on a project with him. I said yes. From that very day, he would always make up excuses to talk to and see me. For example, he is a really smart guy! I know this cause the teacher read out all our marks once. And he was top of the class! My marks were a little bit lower then his. Anyway, he would always ask me for help and he would say he didnt understand alot of things, so i would help. I think he truly did understand because he is really smart. I think he just wanted to talk to me maybe? He would always ask me to study with him, even on the weekends.One day, he asked me for my phone number. His 'excuse' was so that he could contact me during our one week break of classes in case he came up with a brillient idea for our assignment that he just couldnt wait to tell me! Sounds a bit weird to me. He never came up with any brillient ideas...but he did call and message me. He would always sit with me in class and whisper in my ears jokes. He didnt do this to anyone else. In fact, he I rarely ever saw him speak to other girls apart form me. Sometimes he would ring me up late friday nights (near midnight) asking if I wanted to study with him. I found that a bit weird. But I would always agree cause I loved talking to him. He would say hes having trouble with somethign, so we would get together to study and we would barely study - we would mostly talk about other stuff. He just happened to forget what he was having trouble with. Thats another reason why I thought he might not of actully needed my help. Anyway, we spent lots of time studying out of class together. Hes a rather shy guy, so I thought maybe I should make a move, even though im shy too. So I sent him a message inviting him to a music concert I was organising for a charity. He never replied.The next time I saw him in class he acted a bit distant and weird. A day later, he rung me up at around midnight asking how I was and he said he wanted to catch up to study. I said yes. I met up with him and as usual we didnt do too much study, mainly talked. He then told me that he had to move back to his home town because of family problems. I was so shocked and sad that he was going to leave. He has now moved and i really miss him. he is the only guy who has ever treated me with respect and not tried to change me. he accepted that i was a quiet and shy person who didnt like geting drunk every weekened. every other guy ive ever dated has always tried to turn me into someone im not. i havent talked to him since he moved back. i dont know if i should message him. but i guess my real question here is, did he ever like me really? i feel like i need to know just for closure. what happened between us was really weird and confusing. ifelt like he liked me, we seemed to have a connection that ive never felt before with anyone else. but then he never made a move on me, so that confuses me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): there are a lot of people with problems in the world, you sometimes have to decide early on if you want to deal with them. Anyone who is this " shy" is likely going to manifest some troubling quirks ( like freaking out, not even responding when you make a move" )and will require a great deal of patience on your part. They can be trying, leave you all confused. I'd have to say, in general, while they can make you feel special, because they are so shy with everyone and you see them giving you some of themselves, they also are rather immature, and not so able to give of themselves. And that is the most frustrating thing to a sensitive relationship, when one is unable to truly give. Shy people are often very self conscious, sadly often to a flaw, that I have always seen as self centered, they are alywas worrying about how they appear. Hard to deal with them, so if you choose, do so with awareness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI dont see him calling me up late as a booty call. He never made one move on me. If he wasnt shy lke you think, and if he was calling me up as a 'booty call' then why didnt he ever do anything?
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