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I'm sixteen and I think I'm a sexual deviant!!

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Question - (18 June 2008) 4 Answers - (Newest, 1 July 2008)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I'm sixteen and I think I'm a sexual deviant. A masochist to be exact. When I masturbate, I like to pretend that reino nordin, a Finnish actor is a sexual deviant and he does all the things i imagine. I shouldn't be this way. I mean, when I look at him, he looks kinda of scary in a sexy way and it turns me on.

I supposed to be normal. I'm not supposed to imagine someone having power over me, and liking it. What the hell is wrong with me?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008):

It'd didn't start till sometime in the future, about three or four months after watching the movie. I tried to think about good sexual behaviors but it never seems to hold my interested. I LIKE outside of the box and my only problem is finding someone else who likes outside of the box.

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A female reader, Susan Strict United Kingdom +, writes (18 June 2008):

Susan Strict agony auntAbsolutely nothing wrong with you, and you're not a "deviant".

I've just looked up Reino Nordin. OK - so I can assure you that if you have fantasies about HIM there's ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong with you at all. If I was 25 years younger...

Would I be right in thinking it all started when you watched "Young Gods"?

It's probably a phase that will pass. Even if it's not, there are plenty of people who enjoy fantasies and real-life games involving masochism. If that's the case for you, you'll find a partner who is happy to play them with you - but don't rush, because firstly your desires may change and secondly if your interests are a little out of the mainstream then it's much more important to get a partner who is completely in tune with your own desires.

So for the moment, enjoy the fantasy. And most certainly don't worry about it. There's nothing wrong with you at all.

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A female reader, bammy Ireland +, writes (18 June 2008):

bammy agony aunthey,its ok to fantisise about anything you want to everybody is different & therefore we all have different fantasies. you are perfectly normal just enjoy it. I fantisise about other women when I masterbate It doesnt make me lesbian as Ive had boyfriends all my life it just gets me goin & I enjoy it. so don't worry,just because you havent heard people talking about it doesnt mean they don't fantisise about the same things.so have fun with that x

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A female reader, Tremor Australia +, writes (18 June 2008):

Tremor agony auntThere is /nothing/ wrong with you. Masochism is a well established sexual practise.

Just because it's something not everyone is into doesn't make it abonormal in any way. Everyone has their preferences.

Who says you're /supposed/ to be normal? And how do you define 'normal' anyway? Normal means a lot of different things to a lot of different people. Just because you want to be dominated doesn't make you a freak or a sexual deviant.

Enjoy your fantasies, that's what they're for! And don't be ashamed of it.

Good luck to you. =)

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