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*cotland17
writes:Right guys is it me here? Wrote post before about partner. Don't live together, he has daughter of 4 I have two boys. I don't have to deal with my ex as my boys are teens now, been with my man 3 years his ex has another man of 3 years now and another baby too, she calls and txts constantly, Her man, my man and me all work offshore, she lives with her man, and has three weeks at home with him, me and my partner dont live together and sometimes I don't see him for 6 weeks as our work patterns are different, he has reg acc when he is home he works two on 4 off I'm two on two off, so my time is precious with him. my dilemma is am I being the bitch here? he has his daughter every tuesday, wednesday, thursday when he's home. And has all the school runs etc, so three days of my time home he stays at his and first weekend home he has his daughter two, even if I've not seen him for weeks he won't take a night off to spend with me. Whatever ex wants she gets, I told her two says ago my time with him is precious too, I've been home just under 3 weeks and he's had his daughter basically for two weeks, we went away at weekend he took his daughter thursday to monday, he goes back to work tomorrow and she had hospital app, and asked him to keep her another night and I was like we had her so ce thur, I had no kids last night, but she had sitters for her other kids but bit his, so she won again. all I wanted was one night with him and I couldn't get even that. And today he's wondering why I'm so quiet and down. I'm sick of his ex and her demands, my last post said everything in, why am I fighting fit a place? I'm really depressed just now. And have no work either due to transportation in I've no money for Xmas either yet all he's going on about is buying his daughter a iPad and she's 4, my boys will have nothing, he's also just away to but 1000tures on his car today and I'm sitting here with nothing. His ex gets a fortune every month, she has no hassles in I'm just in despair it's all just built up, every thing. I just don't feel very loved myself, it feels like I'm third or fourth, the first year I was with him he had nothing, due to no work and I helped him, bought all jus daughters Xmas paid his mortgage bought him stuff supported him. And I'm getting nothing back, can't even have a day with him what do I do I love him so much. It's not his daughter I recent it's everything else building up. How do I start to tell this man I've had enough
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reader, Scotland17 +, writes (21 November 2012):
Scotland17 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know your right in many ways but I know he does love me he must somehow i have always been a strong person he makes me weak. He run me into the ground a long time ago n I left him but no he didn't leave me, he presued me to have him back loads on times, but the last time I drew it out for months n didn't take him back , then we feel in together again, he has started talking as in us instead of himself but ur fills me with dread that I have to go back to school runs etc n his constant accusing n what I've said us only a small part.I've no self confidence left he beat that out oh me a long time ago to n I don't tell anyone, the emount of times I've been black n blue n he's sorry I leave he stalks me, he lives up the street it's a small place.Yes I love him but I do my own thing I was looking for ways to mske it better hes on meds now n has calmed down, I know it will prob not last underneath it he doesn't deserve me I know that too, it's like I took love herion n I can't get a cure I've the dr tomorrow as I'm depressed n down I think too much n I'm tired. I have listened to ur advice n respect what u said yes any other relationship I'd be gone. I still get plenty attention for other men that's not a big deal though wen y ain't interested its just been hard,
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2012): "Right guys is it me here? Wrote post before about partner."It is you; last time aunts told you it was him and you ignored sound advice to leave him, so now it is you for refusing to accept cold, harsh reality."my dilemma is am I being the bitch here?"No, you're being the doormat here. He's walking all over you only because you're letting him. "I'm sick of his ex and her demands, my last post said everything in, why am I fighting fit a place?"Good question. Ex and her demands aren't the problems, boyfriend and his giving in to ex's demands are. "what do I do I love him so much."I would engage in serious self-reflection. Why do you still profess to "love" a guy who treats you with such disrespect and contempt? Sorry, but he doesn't love you. "It's not his daughter I recent it's everything else building up. How do I start to tell this man I've had enough"You don't "start to" tell him you've had enough as he will not listen. You don't "tell him" you've had enough as he will not listen. You show him you've "had enough" and you leave him and he will not care one way or another.Males can't disrespect females who respect themselves, males can't take advantage of females who refuse to allow males to take advantage of them.Instead of whining and complaiing about a selfish, loser boyfriend, why not instead devote your energy to three teenage boys who desperately need a strong, confident, well-adjusted, upstanding role model who can guide them into becoming strong, confident, well-adjusted, upstanding young men.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (20 November 2012):
 how about you let him read this post...
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