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writes:I have been in a relationship where I have mostly been at school and overseas for work and my man was home. Our relationship has lasted seven years. He hasn't been able to make money for awhile now. I usually am the one always making the calls or SMS and asking whether we can meet and his answer is always we'll see, nothing definite. It's starting to worry me that he isn't ever going to take the next step. He doesn't like talking and tells me I am being difficult always wanting to talk. Should I end this relationship? Is there any hope for this relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2012): I think he's losing interest in this relationship, or maybe he's found someone else. 7 years is a long time, he could have wanted out long ago but because the relationship has gone on so long there is an inertia not to change anything so doesn't know how to end it. He may be waiting for you to end it. either way, if it's a consistent pattern that you're the only one wanting to keep in touch then it's a one-way relationship which is not going to be fulfilling.
note: a relationship that has gone on for many years doesn't necessarily mean it's good or strong. It could just be that the people in it don't have the energy to make a major change in their lives which is what ending a long term relationship would be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2012): You posted yesterday asking why "boyfriend" won't "commit to you" after seven years.Apparently you didn't want to hear the answers you received so now you've rephrased your question while providing the new details that you've been mostly away at school or overseasa at work while he has been mostly unemployed.Sorry, but there's no magic wand that will solve all your problems, additional details only reflect more unfavorably on you and him, and so new info and new questions will only bring similar answers that you don't want to hear: "Should I end this relationship?" Yes. "Is there any hope for this relationship?"No. You can either dump him and not have a boyfriend, or you can stay in this sham "relationship" and not have a boyfriend.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (20 November 2012):
 stop calling and texting...
you've been with him 7 years and everything with him is maybe right?
he's not going to take the next step honey.
time to cut bait and move to a new fishing hole...
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2012): men feel insecure when it comes to them laking money. not having a job right now makes him feel that you are the man and he is the lady at home who act childish. don't ask him to talk,men don't like it, make him see what you want to say through your acts, offer him to meet at a coffee shop you both like and tell him you want him to buy you a cup of coffee like old times, try to make him feel his manhood again. don't call him, just sms saying i miss you dearly and i'm sure he'll offer you to meet,if he does't don't be sad, give him the space to remember how much he loves you and wants to be with you.
a seven year relationship means that their is great love and understanding between you both.
act in need,men needs to be the hero in your eyes, if this doesn't work then maybe the chemistry between you two ended and you need to move on.
hope you all the best.
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