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writes:ive reached the end. Im fed up! My best friend who i used to spend every minute of every day with has ditched me basically for his boyfriend(kinda his boyfriend.. they are but without the name 'boyfriend'). It stated off this lad coming out with me and my friend every now and again. Then he came out every day with me and him and sometimes he went earlier so they could have their time then id be invited down later. Now I dont get invited down anymore. and His boyfriend goes moody with him when he spends time with me. E.g My friend had a picture of me and him on his myspace and His 'boyfriend' made him take it off. My friend has a mind of his own but this other lad is poisoning it to make him do things. Ive fell out with his boyfriend because I cant deal with what he's tryna do. Theres been other things too. But basically, he's trying to take me out of the picture. His boyfriend is really paranoid, controlling, jelous and LOVES sympathy. He is so transparant to me. Only I saw it at first but now my friend is seeing it but if he's not happy with something, my friend will do it to make him happy because he likes him and doesn't want to fall out with him. This has ruined my life. I now never see my best friend just in school and Even then.. his boyfriend starts spending dinner with us and this morning i was alone in my classroom because he went off with his bf and left me alone. Stuff like this happends alot. When I ask my friend to come out he says no cos his bf is going his. and Something what happened about a month ago was. His bf aggreed to go to his friends meal.. and Me and my friend didn't want to go.. so he was planning to go to this meal and I made plans with my friend. and The morning beofore my friend said he wasnt coming out. I asked him why and he said he cant be arsed going out. and I asked him if he wanted 2 come to my house and he said he cant be arsed. In the first lesson I asked his bf what he had got his friend for her birthday and he said oh i forgot i dont think i can be arsed going now. Then he mentioned something about going to my friends and he made an idea like asking if i wanted 2 go and i said no. ((My reason for saying no was because my friend said he cant be arsed to come out..so i assumed he didnt wanna come out so i said no)) .. Then later on i found out he was round at my friends house. Which upset me. This other guy is two faced. He stops my friend seeing me and that. But tried 2 make it seem he didnt want me feeling left out to my face. I dont know what to do. I cant find new friends.. thats just silly I want my friend who i used 2 hang about with alot. I dont want new friends I want him. This has all got too much for me now. Im totally sick of me being chosen second best. Everyday I get depressed and upset because I feel were drifting appart. All because of this other person. What can I do????
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): Your friend is obviously very insecure and spends his time trying to make his manipulative boyfriend happy. All you can do is tell him what you think. Tell him that you can see right through his boyfriend--give him an outsider's perspective. Sometimes when people feel that they are in love they will do stupid things, such as ditching their friends. In the meantime go make new friends. Seriously, why does your life revolve around this one friend? He's your friend, he'll realize that you aren't around and that his relationship is taking over everything. Ask him that if the relationship doesn't last what is he going to do?...if he makes this guy his everything, he is going to end up alone because he pushed his friends away.
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