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writes:I've been having sex for about 5 months now with my boyfriend who I love more than anything and don't regret one minute with, but when we do have sex, he's always on top, he desperatley wants me to go on top and try other positions but I feel completley stupid when we try, he's not that shy when it comes to it but he's absolutly shattered by the time we've finished and I feel proper bad as I'm not exactly doing much work. Is anyone else like this, and if so how did you get over it and just get into it? Also, when we try one position I have to stop instantly because I'm embarrassed I'm going to cum because I'm embarrassed to do so. I'm 16 in a week or so, and I know that's still underage but I do love him and I'm not ashamed to do anything with him except in this department. Any advice would be great.
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reader, dasonras  +, writes (3 January 2009):
You are young and new to sex. Your feelings may be stemming from a deeper part of you. Perhaps it is not sex per se, but you are tangled in some kind of web of humiliation due lack of confidence in yourself.
"I'm embarrassed I'm going to cum because I'm embarrassed to do so."
- i'm not sure what this phrase means...however, if you feel like you are going to cum, DO IT! Your guy will be really turned on. Guys love to know they are satisfying their girl.
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reader, Justjones  +, writes (2 January 2009):
 Personaly i love seeing my giy happy when we've done stuff. (we havent hadsex mind you) but its a major turn on for me to see that he's turned on.
Try it once and be very lose about it. See if you can get caught up in the moment. Im sure it will take him by surprise and he will enjoy it.
As for you being afraid to cum, i know how you feel. But when i told my boyfriend i didnt want to cum because i was emarassed to do so, he was dumbfounded. He says its very hot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): I know what you mean it can be awfully embarrassing to be seen like that. I've dealt with it by thinkin would your boyfriend rather see you embarrassed and rather not be there or totally enjoying youself and being a complete turn on to him.
If you look like you couldn't care less apart from how it feels then he's not going to thinking that your embarrassed and be completely in love with you, if he's feeling like that then why should you be feeling akward? The lad is in seventh heaven! You got him there and should be pretty proud of yourself.
Its mind over matter I think, you act like you dont care which position your in and you'll find it just drops away the more you see him enjoying it.
Hope that makes sense
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