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writes:This question will probably be very hard to answer. I have huge problems talking to girls, whether they are good-looking or not. I never know what to say or how to be charming and sweet etc. I also have problems talking to guys (making new friends). I have moved to a new school this year. I am in grade eleven and I have not had my first kiss. I hate being so shy. I hate the way I look, I am so ugly. Thats probably why I have no self-esteem or confidence in myself or what I do. I try play guitar, sport, do art, everything I try do I just fail at it. Everything. I would love advice.
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reader, CuppenZeCake  +, writes (27 March 2011):
 What person isn't shy to a degree? I see your problem. I have an issue with making friends too, especially since changing schools. The person you want to talk to could be as shy as you so you're not alone. But sometimes, you really have to throw the fear of rejection to the wind. Accept that some people won't like you, no matter how hard you try, and they aren't worth your time. Don't leave all the conversation to one person and expect them to come up to you all the time. It's okay to make the first move. :D But a negative look on yourself will only make things worse. Teen years are crucial for a lot of adult character building.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): For starters stop brow beating yourself. Instead of focusing on things you dont like about yourself focus on what you do like.Find something you like and work hard at it. You may not be very good to start with but if you work at it you'll find yourself excelling at it. Practice makes perfect. When it comes to making friends you should always be yourself. Introduce yourself to people. Most people will start up by asking you were you lived previously stuff like that do not give one word answers. When it comes to females just introduce yourself to them ask them about themselves. It's a widely know fact girl love talking about themselves. Find something you have in common and go with it. Good Luck :)
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reader, Abacadaba  +, writes (27 March 2011):
 I've always been shy around girls more so when i was in school no particular reason just am, one of those things mate at the end of the day how many girls are out there? you'll eventually meet girls who even though you think your shy you wont have a problem talking too, I've still not met a girl since school i really want to get to know and spend the time doing so, had a few dates or whatever but if they ain't right for you theres no point trying too hard for the sake of it, don't think of it as you HAVE to have a girl or HAVE to get your first kiss or whatever don't worry about it and it will happen
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reader, LunaticLove92 +, writes (27 March 2011):
My man, I used to be shy, not quite as shy, but still shy. All I can say is there are plenty of shy girls out there who have the same problem. All you have to do is be yourself, It'll work out eventually. As for the new friends, its the same concept. There are guys just like you who are trying to find friends. Just try talking to people and get started in a club that interest you, your bound to find someone. And by the way, keep your head and stop putting yourself down, itll get better. Good luck
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