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writes:hi everyone i work in a hospital and i really like this paramedic everytime i see him he smiles and always makes a point of saying hi to me but whenever we see each other he always goes really shy and so do i how do i let him know i really like him without actually telling him? thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi thanks for the reply i should of said i can't really hang out with friends to because his other friend likes me too
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reader, sleepingbeauty  +, writes (7 July 2011):
I get really shy around guys I like and the guy I like is really shy too. I've finally gotten over my fears and just talked to him and invited him to ice cream (Don't you love summertime?) It was easiest though because HIS friends joined along. He felt really comfortable knowing all of them. I'm pretty new to that group of friends so I just made sure to be myself. He's been really comfortable with me since and we've been getting a lot of hang time. (Still with his friends, but soon, we'll have our own time ;) I say, find his friends, invite them all to something fun no one can turn down!
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (7 July 2011):
The best thing to do would be to overcome your shyness :) I know that is one of those things that is easier said than done. If you like someone, it is a good idea to let them know. Telling them to their face is best, but if that is too much for you to face, you can write a note with your name, number, and a message asking him to meet you for a coffee or drink and give it to him. If you don't spell it out to him in plain english, he won't know, guys are often not that sharp, and especially if they are shy, so if you want to get the message across, playing with your hair suggestively and batting your eyelids isn't going to work here. You can wait for him to make the move, but I don't like that approach. Why should you wait, they are your feelings to express.
We generally feel like telling someone that we like them is this big risk, because we don't want them to feel differently and face being rejected. The truth is, it is ok that people don't feel the same way about one another sometimes. Sometimes people like you and sometimes they don't, often those reasons aren't about you, and often people are rejected on the basis that the other person doesn't really know how great they actually are. There is value in telling people how you feel about them no matter what the actual outcome is. Again, that is easier said than done, but it is true if you can build the courage.
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