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writes:well am talking to this guy who i like and he tells me that he likes me also.but am kind of shy and i havent had a lots of boyfriends I've only had had two of them.the guy,who am talking to is experience and has had plenty of relationships so i feel like if am not on his level.am not very confident in myself and he knows that.he says that if i ever become his girlfriend that he is going to buy me clothes that reveal some skin.he is always telling me that guys fall in love with girls who are confident with themselves.he knows that am not comfortable under my skin and he wants to change that.am that type of girl who doesnt wear make up,who doesnt wear tight clothing.am the type of girl,who always wears sweaters, pants that fit kind of loose,i always have my hair in a ponytail.as you could tell am not like every other girl.but there is something about this guy that makes me want to change the way i am.the guy who am talking to is so sweet,he always makes me laugh,he is always worrying about me having nightmares so he always trys to stay up late with me over the phone,he doesnt do drugs or drink beer or nothing like that.am just wondering if its a good idea to change the way you are for someone who seems to care about you.
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reader, Hali1985  +, writes (27 January 2007):
 I believe if someone loves you they have to love you for who you are. The little things are what make us individual. There are so many girls out there that dress for men and not for themselves. In the hight of winter girls wear short skirt and small tops, surely this isn't for there benefit. Being confident is attactive, there are other ways to show confidence than wearing revealing clothes. Try being outspoken telling him this is who you are "he says that if i ever become his girlfriend that he is going to buy me clothes that reveal some skin" he's trying to change you already. Please dont let him change who you are, Be proud of who you are.
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reader, Ohboy +, writes (27 January 2007):
 You really have to ask ... Do I like myself? ... If you change for this boy you will always regret it in some form. He wants you to dress in clothes that show some skin and he's even willing to buy these clothes for you, what a loser. If you go out with him and you'll find you your not being fair to yourself and that's a horrible feeling. You have confidence, you just don't show it to this boy because he's pressuring you. Please don't waste your time on him ... You seem like such a smart person and I'm glad to see you question this situation but understand if this boy were to change you then he would win and move on to the next girl.
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