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writes:I'm a short dude but I LOVE tall women. I'm appealing in every way except for my height. How do I hit on women who are a foot taller than me without having them think I'm joking? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2012): Here's my advice. Treat a tall girl the same way you would treat a short girl and don't think about her height. Don't even bring it up in conversation unless she does. Many tall women are sensitive and insecure about their height to begin with so unless she jokingly makes a reference to your height differences, don't go down that route. Be your honest self and don't try to be someone different. Women don't like men who come across as fake or phoney. If she doesn't like you for who you are, too bad for her. Move on to the next woman. I will say this. If you really like tall girls, be prepared to get rejected twice as much if not more than you would when approaching short girls. I'm not trying to put you down, but just like you I'm a short guy who likes tall women too. A lot of them are notorious for their genuine dislike of shorter men. Some don't even like shorter people at all. My solution is to talk to as many women as possible and don't put all your eggs in one basket. On a good note, there are tall women who don't care about a mans height. Even better are the ones who prefer us over the taller guys. You have to try to find those rare ladies even though it's never easy.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (1 September 2012):
 Give the girls a couple more years to become more open to this and you will not look back.
Think of men over the years who have become icons and who were short but who successfully attracted taller girls. Think of Dudley Moore, think of Tom Cruise. Both seem to have consistently attracted tall and beautiful women.
Your personality will attract the girls. Try to stay positive. Develop a good sense of humour - girls love that. Plus please learn to flirt a little more successfully.
Here is an article to help you learn more about flirting.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/who-is-a-natural-flirt-and-what-qualities.html
Your character will help you to keep the nice girls. So try to be reliable. If you say you will be there at 8pm then make sure you turn up on time.
Remember girl's birthdays. If you see her shivering offer to share your jacket with her and notice something nice about her, that you can say to her. And Listen to her. Listen to her dreams. Listen to her when she talks about that means the most to her. Listen to her if she is upset.
Though mever be a doormat. A girls likes an honorable guy. A guy who will not embarass her in public. A peaceful guy who is kind to others. A guy who can take charge if the situation requires it.
Though if you want to aim for super-rich, then you will also be able to add in 'gold diggers' who seem to be attracted to short, tall, fat, slim, repulsive or not guys as long as they have masses of money.
But such gold-digging girls are not worth the trouble.
So if you do become super-rich learn how to spot genuine girls, not those just telling you what they think you want to hear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2012): I am a short dude too. I have found that short, tall, big or small, that women that are worth talking to, don't care how tall someone is. There are some that want the "Tall Dark and Handsome" from the movies, but they are the lonely ones. If it is just a "hit on" scenario you want to work on and not a "get to know" situation, prepare to be shot down. Women sense the "trollers". Some just want that, but most do not. Women want more than just a nibble and run. They want to get to know you. Remember that women are just like you. They are looking too. None of us want to be used and tossed aside. Speak to them with respect, don't come off as desparate and "just looking to hit" on someone. Smile and dive in. Surprise yourself. Respect is the key to getting what you are looking for. You can just "hit on them" but do it with a little class.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 September 2012):
 I guess everyone is different when it comes to height and what they like and what they don't. If I was hit on by a shorter guy I don't think he would be joking, because to me the height wouldn't be such a big deal. I think you need to try and get to know a person though first, so that they can find out what you are like as a person and not just base there judgement on you from how you look.
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