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writes:I'm an 18 year old girl and i am self-conscious about my body. I am a size 8/10, 5"4 and weigh about 127lbs. I hate my body an i think that is why guys don't like me. I'm not really fat but i have rather big thighs and calves (i used to dance a lot some years ago)my arms too and i don't have a perfectly flat tummy and have no hips, i just look weird. Bassicaly i have quite big bone structure and i hate my body because of that. My best friend and other girlfriends have the perfect bodies so guys never look at me when we go out. How could i boost my confidence?Please help!
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reader, just_me_girl +, writes (16 February 2009):
just_me_girl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for ur advice!
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reader, Aunty Em +, writes (3 September 2008):
 Join the club love! I don't have one friend who loves themself completely and accepts who they are... Of which, i'm not saying we should give up hope of being happy with ourselves! No, not at all.
You say perfect twice in your writing. There is no such thing. If you're going to feel confident about this, that's one thing you have to accept. Everyone is built differently.
You're a size 8/10, a good weight/height, a NORMAL set of thighs and calves, as well as a tummy - there's no rule book saying it must be flat!
I'm a size 14 you see, top and bottom. Big thighs, big calves, a bit of a tummy, big arms - you could pinch a few inches lets say! At a weight of 11 stone. I can't say i LOVE the way i look - but some days, i don't think I look terrible - some days i do. There are other people (plenty of them) with insecurities just like you. Hold that to your heart, and use it to give yourself confidence.
Besides, have you not heard of the saying 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder' ? When talking about utter truth - that is the definition. So when you next go out with your mates, and they get eyed up and down but you don't .. Who cares? They might not fancy you, but the next guy who walks past will and won't fancy your mates. Each to their own! The people you fancy, your mates might not find particularly attractive.
It's all fine. And I bet you're actually a very pretty person! Don't worry about it. Enjoy everything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2008): Cliche warning... It's really up to you to get happy with your body (and make it happy with reasonable food and exercise) and others will like it too. We all like different things - I like tall strong women but women with this physique are often self-conscious. I also have a thing for a certain type of neck/shoulders which I can't describe, not exactly mainstream though. Stop reading junk magazines and watching crappy TV!
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