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female
age
41-50,
*hasim
writes:I recently have started dating this guy at work and I like him.We are compatible together .., he makes me laugh and we have a good time together.Ive just recently found out that he is HIV positive.I nearly had sex with him on Friday, we kissed and touched the works ..I spent the whole nite at his place but no intercourse.He was soo careful, he had a condomn on the whole nite, and didnt really open mouth kiss me that much.I surfed on the net about having sex with an HIV positive patner and am now honestly debating having sex with this guy.I like him. But what if I put myself at risk for something that will last for 3 months or less. We havent discussed where we are taking this relationshipIm really hoping he reveals this himself.
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reader, Thasim +, writes (13 March 2007):
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Guys ..thanx for all the advise, I personaaly think I have my whole life ahead of me and CANNOT risk my life for him. He is trying soo hard to get close to me and I just cant be truly free in his arms..Ill always think of the consequences.
I just feel really sad and hurt..ive been going in and out of relationships for the past couple of months and I meet someone who I connect with and loves me and he is HIV positive.So is LIFE...
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2007): Well if you do ever decide to have sex with him remember it is vital that you use a condom otherwise you'll end up catching HIV from him. If this relationship progresses further and you both fall in love and get married you have got to remember that you can't have kids with him apart from if you adopt because if you did fall pregnant with his baby not only are you hugely at risk of catching HIV the baby might possibly get the disease itself. Also, by the way, you can't catch HIV through kissing unless he has a cut in his mouth and you do as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2007): You need to have a good chat with him. Lots of people live through and survive HIV, so don't let it get you down. Have a chat with your local GP and get to know all about it. Revise it all on the internet and get gened up. If you do have sex, then have protected sex, using a condom and stay by him. He will feel hurt enough. I wish you both well. Sorry, I can't say more, i don't know enough myself to comment but do speak to someone who is in the know.
Take care
xx
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reader, cd206  +, writes (12 March 2007):
 Many couples manage to have great sex despite the fact that one of them in HIV positive but the most important thing here to is to be fully informed of the risks. Make an appointment with the practise nurse at your local doctor and have a chat with her about the risks and how common they are etc. I'm sure she can either set your mind at rest or at least help you to make up your mind either way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2007): Unfortunatly there are important risks involvolved here. I know that there are ways to protect yourself. Get to a clinic, and get proffessional advice. Have you wondered what if the condom breaks? I think you have to seriously consider if this man is the man you would die for. Its a scary world out there, and you need to know all the fcats before pursuing this. Do not kiss him if you have an ulcer or open wound in your mouth etc. are just little facts that you need to learn about. Then you also need to think about if you want to worry about this for cthe rest of your life. If you want 2 get married and children, there are so many things you need to think about girl, go to a clinic they will give you all the answers. Dont take that risk, its happens in a blink of an eye.
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