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writes:Need some advice please. OK so my ex-girlfriend and I broke up like 9 months ago after dating for like a little over a year. We were serious. Anyway, she broke up with me but we still fooled around and still acted like bf/gf. It was weird for me obviously because I wanted her back! This continued, but about 3 months ago, she announced to me that her and this guy she had been friends with all during our relationship were together now. I got so angry and was hurt obviously. I didn't really talk to her for 2 months. Then I somehow got up the guts to hang out with her one night. I didn't know what to expect. We ended up making out, etc.. We haven't had sex yet, but we fool around every time we hang out now, even though she is dating this guy. So she's basically f-ing this guy over big time. I'm not too sure how to handle the situation. I so want to inform this dude of what's going on, but that's the immature thing to do. I want to find a way to force her to tell him herself. Any advice (guys and girls) on what I should do? Do nothing? Do something? Thanks...
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (13 February 2007):
 yes do something like making peace with the fact that she is a dishonest person? can that be a start? she is fooling around with her ex .-.you whilst she is dating another guy, how do you know she wnt do the same thing to you with her future ex? i know its a risk you have to be willing to take but for how long? what will you gain by telling her bf? i am sure he doesnt know any of this and obviously he will dump her which will upset her so much and she will hate you for ruining her fun? forget this girl and find someone who is worthy of your love and you will be able to trust.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (13 February 2007):
 I'll admit that it sounds tempting to tell you to let this other guy know, but if you do; you're just going to come off as a jealous ex-boyfriend.
And what if you got together with your ex-girlfriend again: wouldn't you be wondering if she's fooling around with someone else behind your back, just like she does to her current boyfriend?
Actually, the mature thing to do would be to walk away to spare yourself heart ache and drama, and find someone who will be more worthy of your affections.
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