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writes: i have found out that my boyfriend is a rapist, he raped his last girlfriend she used to be my best friend until she left. they have a daughter if i dump him i will get raped and that has happened to me before what can i do he is obssed in me
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reader, totochick23 +, writes (30 December 2006):
tell the police you dont want to get raped and neither does any other girl. if you split up with him and he doesnt rape you...lucky you...but what about his next gf what happens then. he could rape her and then where would that leave you? with a guilty conscience. do the right thing and get i touch with your friend tell her everything and make her come to the police with you to get this man locked away
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2006): you don't need to put up with abuse of any kind, i don't care who you are. take care of yourself and do what ever you need to to get out of that relationship now and somewhere safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2006): I think that you should speak to your local police department and tell tham about your partners history and ask for help to get relocated.
And depending on which country you live in , most countries have a place where women can go to get away from abusive or dangerous men they are called safe houses.
if your really nervous speak to someone who you trust and if they can go with you to the police it might make it a little easier to get the help you need.
Ok good luck, and look after yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2006): it's good that you realize you're in a dangerous situation. there are people that are trained in helping women like you escape situations just like this. find a rape crisis center and talk to them - call from a payphone or go over in person and do it while he's at work. they can help you develop a plan for escaping as safely as possible, and they can help you understand the order in which things should happen (i.e., who you call first, where you go, etc.) to stay safe.
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reader, sard0106 +, writes (30 November 2006):
O my, i am sorry to hear this..you really need to get out of this situation...your in danger from this guy. Is there someone you can talk to confidentially, family, friend that can help you...He is a bully and the worst type of person. He should be reported to the police..should not be allowed to get away with this. I realise you must be scared..but for you own benefit..get out now! Good louk
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reader, stina  +, writes (30 November 2006):
 Hi Phibby,
You need to break up with this guy and get a restraining order if you're scared that he will rape you. If there is a restraining order in place and he breaks it, then there are reprecussions, usually involving jail time.
I would also advise that you also not walk around alone for a while - you should contact your local authorities and ask for their guidance, as well. You should also tell your family and friends what sort of person this guy is so that they can look out for you, as well, and be there for support.
If you're in the US, you could try calling the Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network (RAINN): http://www.rainn.org/ (1.800.656.HOPE)
Hope this helps! Be careful and take care!
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