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writes: There is a guy who is always flirting with me and touching me and stuff and he wants to have sex with me but im scared im not good enough because he is really experienced and im not. should i have sex with him or not?
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reader, Queen of Parts +, writes (25 November 2006):
You don't say how old you are, but I (forgive me if I'm wrong) get the impression you are quite young.
I used to make the mistake of liking a guy, just because he liked me - this is no grounds for a relationship. You don't mention how you feel about him, but if you were truly comfortable with the idea of sleeping with him, the "good enough" part wouldn't be an issue.
In my opinion, there is no "good enough". Part of the great thing about being in a sexual relationship is discovering what you both like and enjoy about each other, in a mutual respect of each other.
It sounds to me like this guy is just out for what he can get from you, and you would be wise to stay away
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2006): Don't even consider having sex with this guy just because he is always touching you and flirting with you...
The fact that he is more experienced than you tells me that he may think you will be easily manipulated into having sex with him, and he has not offered to be your steady boyfriend yet.
Save sex until you are in a trusting, loving, exclusive relationship with someone who loves and respects you for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2006): no dont be put of, i slept with someone who had, had alot of experiance its only made us closer, let me know how it goes chick! X
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reader, oregon +, writes (22 November 2006):
I don't think there is a way of being "good enough" at sex, i think what you are saying is you are not ready to sleep with him yet even though he wants to sleep with you.
If you really feel uncomfortable about having sex with him, then just say no firmly, (several times if necessary) don't make excuses to him, (this will only make him question you further) just say "no" firmly and if necessary leave the room, if he respects you he wont hold it against you.
hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2006): just because he has slept with a lot of women, doesnt mean he is experienced. he could be the 2 minute man.
and besides some of the best sex is sex with someone u have been dating a while so that way u learn new moves and push ur limits. its the best way to learn and gain the experience.
what it all comes down to is do what u will, but dont do it because u think he likes u.
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