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writes:i've been dating this guy for a little more than 4 months now, but yet i had a boyfriend (long distance) for more than a year at the same time. I told the long distance one that i was seeing another guy and this was the second time i cheated on him. I recently had a long thought and figured out that i really loved him and didnt want him to go but yet i love the other guy. just not as much. i dont know if i should tell my boyfriend (4 months) that ive had another boyfriend or not...even though the long distance relationship didnt end so well. im scared to find out the outcome. i just dont know what to do. please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2010): Well if you love him you need to come out, be honest and tell him, its what he deserves, hopefully he would forgive you but just tell him the truth he should be happy; good luck, I hope it all goes well xx
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reader, Odds +, writes (29 July 2010):
 You should come clean with both of the guys. You are cheapening yourself, turning yourself into the kind of girl who will hurt and cheat on her boyfriends. Do you want to be *that* girl? If you really love yourself, you should hold yourself to a higher standard than that.
Yes, there is a very strong possibility that either guy will get mad and leave you. This is entirely justified on their part. You have not held yourself to the standard any normal person would expect in a relationship, and if they leave you, you should try to be better to the next guy.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (29 July 2010):
May hurt now...but it will hurt a hell of alot more the long you wait.
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reader, casey.44 +, writes (29 July 2010):
 So you want to be with the one of 4 months? Tell him. Don't hide anything in a realionship and dont do it again! o: you love him? then only love him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2010): There will be many more boys to come. You are very young and what will happen will happen. If you want to explore where the relationship will go with the 4 month boyfriend, then explore. If you are not sure, then date him and keep your options open. After all you are really young and there may be many other boys before you find the one that will be your forever man. Good Luck.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (29 July 2010):
 I'm a wee bit confused about which one you love but I'm assuming it's the 4 month one? Do you need to tell him? I think it could probably just stay burried.
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