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writes:i am 11 years old fat and ugly. my best friend introduced me to this guy over msn and i really like him but he never saw me and I keep having dreams of me kissing him. i want to ask him out but im worried that once he sees me he wont like me any more. I want to ask him to hang out at the park but im nervous. plus he never comes on msn any more. I don't have his number. what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): Well, Im 12 years old, and tons of crushes, but I never had a "Real" Boyfriend before... But the tips Ill give you are plain and simple, not hard to at all! And hear it is:
1:Be in the right place. It's best to ask someone out in person, so you've got to make sure to be where the guy you have a crush on is. This could be at the mall, the movies, or maybe at the baseball field if he's an athlete. You don't want to look like a stalker, but you do want to be able to talk to him.
2: Make small talk with him. Break the ice by commenting on something he's wearing or saying something about the place or event you're at. Just try to get him to feel comfortable around you.
3: Make eye contact with him. While the two of you are talking, make eye contact and try to hold it for just a little longer than you normally would--just two or three seconds. If he makes eye contact back, he's probably interested in you. Make sure he's not looking at you because you're doing something weird or because he is the cashier.
4:Commence flirting. This can mean touching him lightly on the arm, for example, or laughing at his jokes. Just be playful and communicate that you're interested. Sometimes you can flirt from afar and entice him to come over to you.
5: Once you find something you both have in common, ask if he'd like to do it together sometime. Do NOT just rush up to him and say the words, or ask a friend to ask him out for you! Guys hate that. It is embarrassing. If you don't succeed in finding something you have in common, you might not really find him that interesting, but if you want to take a chance, just let him know that you'd like to hang out with him again.
B:If he says no, or if he seems like he needs more time, don't get too upset; always say you can just be friends if that's what he wants. Chances are, he'll change his mind. Guys do this a lot. Just be patient and wait to see what happens. Just say, "Oh, thats okay, maybe some other time." Don't be rude. If you are, he won't consider going some other time. Don't send hate mail, either,. It's childish.
C:If he says yes, plan where and when you will go out, and don't forget to have fun. Since you asked, you should pay for the date, unless he insists. If he wants to pay for the date, then hey - no arguments there, right? No, actually if he wants to pay, make sure he really does. If he hesitates, jump in and offer to pay. If you both find yourself wanting to pay, compromise. Suggest that you both pay half.
Bye! Hope this works! If not email me at: [email address blocked] -Brynn
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reader, mista_ecks  +, writes (22 August 2007):
personally, I say DONT MEET THIS MAN! there are too many perverts, and men who don't have your best interests at heart.
second of all, enjoy being 11...this is the begining of the best time of your life so enjoy it while you can
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): okay...
1.i doubt your fat and ugly. and if you are a bit overweight it's probably a puberty thing, you'll blossom into a beautiful young girl.
2. you need to be EXTREMELY careful when meeting people online. you're young and there are people out there who prey on young neive girls.
3.if you decide to meet him (but making sure it is safe to do so) do not go alone. if he is really a friend of your friend, then you can all hang out together. but if your friend also met this guy online without ever having met him in person - DO NOT TRY TO MEET HIM. it's dangerous.
4.if you are interested in him, ask him what he thinks of you. simple as that. it may seem like a big deal when your 11 but it really isnt.
but don't fret. you're young and you have so many opportunities ahead of you to meet great guys.
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reader, redshoes83  +, writes (20 August 2007):
 seriously you are 11. You cannot think that you are fat and ugly, and you cannot just settle for some guy you have met on msn! Have you ever met him? If he was a decent bloke he wouldn't care if you were overweight and didn't look like some supermodel. In my experience most decent boys don't care about looks. They care about personality and whether you two can have a laugh and a nice time together. I don't think you should meet up with him, he could seriously be anyone. He could be an old man, ,don't bother wasting your time on him, or caring what he might think. Just go out be young and enjoy it. Confidence is the most attractive feature in anyone - just not too much of it!
ENJOY YOURSELF GIRL.....
don't meet this man please!
LOVE xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): Honey, it's completely natural to think about kissing guys at your age, but acting on it is completely difference, especially with a guy from the internet. He could be anyone, you've got to take care of yourself.
And as for the ugly thing, your body is still growing and changing, again completely natural, I really think you should wait a while, let your body and your mind grow up a bit first.
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