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writes:OK I'm at my wits end. Over the last year, I've developed a relationship with a co-worker and I know for a fact that I've fallen in love. One problem. I'm married. My wife find out about the affair that started about a year ago. For awhile, we tried to make things work, but eventually the strain of trying to repair the relationship combined with the long hours our jobs require, we are filing for divorce. Now, I am beginning to realize that the feelings I had for the other woman were much stronger than originally anticipated. I had a decision to make months ago when my wife found out about the affair. And I decided to work things out. And eventually, the other woman gives up on me thinking I will never leave my wife. She begins a relationship with another guy and for the last few months they have been seeing each other on a regular basis. However, I can't deny the feelings in my heart that are so strong. The other woman and I are good friends. She's asking me to be patient so she can decide on which path it is that she wants to take. I wasted a year denying the feelings inside and I'm afraid that the woman I truly love is no longer interested. What do I do? I NEED HELP!!!!
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reader, raven100  +, writes (8 August 2009):
Hi,my only answer is that: be a man, she won't come back if you wait for her. A year ... year is nothing but it's really stupid to wait for somebody who is just having fun, having sex and living with another guy! lol Do you really want to be weak? find another women, or come back to your wife, give yourself a chance to live more, to live how you dream of.good luck, and next time, don't cheat a woman until you break up, my strong advice:)R.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009): Expressing impatience and persistence, when she asks for space, you may find that she may distance herself from you. You can stay around, show her that you're genuine as a friend and with patience and tactful actions, sincere that you want to be more intimate. With that, you may win her over in time. If not, then you will remain friends, unless you cannot and decide to move on. It is not you that needs help, but her, whom needs the time and space to think on her own.
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