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writes:Hi,I'm in love with someone and she is in love with me. We are kinda together but not really, we don't have a physically relationship, its just emotional. We see each every day for at least a few hours and both of us find that not enough. Anyway, certain circumstances have led her to saying we should take a month break, meaning no contact at all. These circumstances have nothing to do with us and our relationship but rather external factors. This kinda come out of nowhere, I wasn't expecting it. Anyway, at the time I reluctantly agreed (this was yesterday), but now I'm hurting so much and I figure she probably is too. So my question is, should I contact her? Or should I let her have her space? I'm scared that she is testing my love and that I should be resisting this idea more. Or am I really showing my love by respecting her wishes? I don't know what to do, I love her so much and am dying thinking about not seeing her for a month. What do I do? We normally chat all day over messenger and today she logged on in the morning and then logged off at lunchtime, when we would normally meet for lunch. Was she waiting for me to contact her and then I didn't so she gave up??Thanks in advance. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): Hey I kno what your going thro. I'm with my boyf over 2 years and he said 3 weeks ago that we should have a break, we both had things bottled up that we hadn't told each other and it all came out one w/end as a result! You should give her some space - if you don't you will only drive her further away from you. And I kno you don't want that either.
I'm trying my hardest not to contact him and give him some space but its breaking my heart in the mean time. It will be one month next w/end and if I haven't heard from him by mid next weeek I'm goin to contact him and see where I stand! If he doesn't want to get back with me - its his loss...
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reader, joana20  +, writes (9 April 2008):
I really think you should give her some space...She asked for that time because it's what she probably wants. I think you should respect that.
It's hard, I know...But what if she really gets angry if you try to contact her?
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