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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi everybody. About 8 years ago i split up with my long term partner after finding out he was seeing my best mate.Over the following years I have found I cannot trust men.I have been with my current partner for 6 months and I love this man so much and he loves me to. We are not together much as he is in the Navy and works away but we do speak everyday and see each other as much as possible unless he goes to sea.I trust my boyfriend when he is away etc but my biggest problem i I have this fear that he will do the same as my ex. Im convinced he fancys my best mate, because at times they seem uncomfortable around each other I assume that something has happened or will happen. Im sending myself round the bend with paranoia. My friend has a boyfriend and is happy with him im so scared that history will repeat itselfxx
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (31 March 2008):
The main thing you have to do is to recognise that people are different and that not all men are the same and neither are all best friends.
Tell him about your concerns and that you have a problem with trust as a result of this past experience. Ask him how you can deal with this.
It may be necessary for you to get some professional help to deal with this before it takes too much from your life.
Message me if you think I can help more.
Good luck.
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