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writes:I like my ex-boyfriend a lot. But the problem is when we started going out two years ago he really wanted to have sex with me and when ever we talked he would whisper in my ear and say he wanted to have sex with me right there, he wanted to rip my shirt off stuff like that. Which it scared me and I always told him no I wouldn't do that till I was older. That's the main reason why I broke up with him. But after a year I couldn't stand being without him. I loved him with all my heart and I some how convinced myself he was my soul mate and the only one for me even though he only wanted me for sex. We have now smoothed out the bumps but when ever he is near me I'm scared, I can't look him in the eyes and I even sometimes shake and stutter. Sometimes I can tell I'm a bit nervous around him. When he wants to call me I tell him my phone died because I'm scared. What do I do to make it stop and why is this happening?
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reader, muffy +, writes (19 November 2010):
 Sugar,I was the same way with half of my boyfriends when I wasn't ready for sex.I'd shake,not answer thier calls and look away from them too.If your not ready then your not ready.If he can't except that then he's not worth it.He doesn't deserve you.If he keeps bugging you about it then I'd leave him.It'd be the best thing for you.I hope everything works out sweet pea.If you need anything just let me know.
Love and kisses,
Muffy33
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reader, angelbaby92 +, writes (19 November 2010):
What are you scared of? do you think he's going to hurt you? listen if he only wants you for sex and your not willing to give him that then you have to move on. i know that its gonna be hard and you feel like you need him and can't live without him but that's not healthy. you just gotta let him go. it'll be hard at first but eventually you'll get over it
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reader, petina1  +, writes (19 November 2010):
 i can't work out from what you are saying whether you've actually had sex with him yet. If he's still sticking around for that moment after two years maybe he doesnt just want you for sex. Have you got issues about sex, is it a religious thing. You sound very insecure about everything.
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reader, BerlinsLoveGuru  +, writes (19 November 2010):
 First of all, if a guy is just looking you for sex, he will leave you in future for sure . And if you are not ready for sex, he should understand it as well. And chill out until you are ready. If i would like ask my gf 24 / 7 Everywhere can we have sex now , she would leave me calling me a jerk. So that means i dont think its his smart move .So if you want to have sex with him now , i am sure you do .. who doesnot you should like talk to him but if you are looking for a long relationship with love and sex both at the same time , find another guy cuz he will break into you and leave you :D cheers '!
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