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writes:Problem!I am with this guy, i'm crazy about him, think about him all the time, want to be with him all the time. Basically i love him. And i want to tell him that i love him.But 1 - I have only loved once before, but that relationship ended badly, and i find myself having issues with letting people in and telling them how i feel. And don't know how to get past this.. Any suggestions? I really want to tell him, but don't want to end up getting hurt.And 2 - How in the hell would i tell him for the first time, that i love him?! With my ex he actually said it to me first and i said it back, but with my present boyfriend he's never said it, whether or not that means he loves me i don't know, but he is a very shy guy, so it could be that. Either way i do want to tell him, but its just how?!Please help me!
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reader, kokopebbles  +, writes (6 July 2009):
Just don't blurt out the L word randomly, without reason. Do it when it the moment is right. Like right after he does something nice for you, so that way it wont seem all awkward and forced. It will instead seem natural and meaningful.
Hey, if you like the guy then go for it. Tell him that you love him. If you are afraid of being rejected then, please, have no fear. Just be honest with him, and tell him once, about your past relationships and how you've been hurt before. If he cares about you, then he'd understand
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reader, Starlights +, writes (6 July 2009):
 ok firstly u say u been hurt before, this is a fact of adulthood.
we've all been hurt or let down by someone in the past.
u have to really let that experience out and put it down to "one of those things" which happen in life.
u might find it hard to trust people, but by trusting others only then can u open urself into having new meaninful relationships.
there's never a right way to tell someone u love them. just bite the bullet & do it. find the courage to tell him, write a letter, sing a song, blurt it out, remmeber life's too short, and u may not get a tommorow to do it.
good luck!
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