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writes:Not sure anyone can really help me with this, but...For some reason, all of a sudden, I find myself scared of everything. Scared of taking my family on an upcoming trip to Spain. Scared to go to a Halloween party. Scared of who to talk to, what to say, will they like me at the party. Scared to take on challenging projects at work. Scared of any sort of confrontational situation/conversation. I feel this strong urge to go in my house and hide.This is very out of character for me. I have traveled to many different countries, some with my kids. I had a job where I represented others in very adversarial circumstances. I have gone to and hosted many a party.I don't understand what is happening to me. I just want to hide.Has this happened to any of you? How did u get over it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell thank you all for taking the time to offer help. And es12, I am very sad to hear of the horrible circumstances with which you have had to deal. They make mine look trivial, but inside mynhead they are very real.
There are things happening around me that have me stressed. I live in An area of the US where there are many fame.ies close to us who have stopped paying their mortgages, and are soon to be cast adrift into the financial dog eat dog world all around us. This is not my situation (obviously with Spain), but to sit idly by and watch it wreak havoc with the normal families around us, some of whom were much better off just last year, has been very unsettling.
My work is more stressful and tenuous tah. It was a year ago - but this is true of everyone these days, isn't it?
The only other thing I can think of is having a daughter. I have sons, whom I love very much. We have great times together. Its perfect between us. However, I don't feel this overwhelming need to smother them with live and protect them, like I do her. I just have this thought, morbid and pointless, that I know if anything ever happened to her I would never recover.
Other than this, perhaps I am having a mid-life crisis? I am not near the strong man I used to be, even just a few years ago.
Sorry for the whining. I don't feel I really have anywhere else I can do this. No one likes a man who is a cry baby. I am afraid to share these thoughts with my wife. She loves me very much, but has often said over the years that she needs a strong man whom she can respect, she has enough emotional whinni g women in her life already. That is kind of what I feel I am acting like now....
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): Hi!!
Thanks for your question. Yes, this has happened to me. Last year I spent a great deal of time not een coming out of my room..I just wanted to sleep as I was emotionally drained from many things. I was scared of everything and everyone. I didnt even go to the gym, which was my top priority. I ended up being diagnosed with depression. I refused to go on meds and instead focused on a few hobbies. One of them, DJing, led me out of this bunker as I found myself sharing music to people and that was all I needed to start a new foundation and went from there. I was back on my feet in no time.
I learned not to isolate yourself. So, coming on this board is a good thing. Share your problems whichever way you feel comfortable with, dont keep them inside or youll end up looking scary big like me. Its baby steps from here doll. Start by tackling one of those issues first and focus on it. Your confidence seems very low and im sorry about that. Seriously, be yourself and stay consistent with who you are and your family is best to support that so go on this trip with them. It gives you an opportunity for a little release and explore and give you sort of a refresher (unless of course it turns out as weekend at bernies 3 ;p). I think you def need that. Plus spain is beautiful..ive been there and im sure you will like it!! After a little fun time and release and maybe a little laughter, you'll come back feeling better about stuff so that could enable you to take the steps you need to conquer some obstacles. Best to you :)
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (2 November 2010):
 It could be that you're going through a period of anxiety. Have you been stressed lately? Any major changes going on in your life?
I would first go to your regular doctor to see if you have any hormonal changes going on, and if s/he gives you the all clear, talk to a therapist. Anxiety can be dealt with if you have the proper techniques.
Good luck.
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reader, es12  +, writes (2 November 2010):
Has anything traumatic happened to you lately - after I was raped - (and this was about 2 years later) - I started to have panic attacks and it sounds like this is what is happening. Luckily I had a partner at the time that was very understanding, I could confide in him and he would alley my fears. Do you have someone you can confide your feelings in? I mean don't feel silly talking about it because there's nothing wrong with it.If not then try herbal remedies like Kalms ect. And if all else fails then go to your doctors. I have got through this and I know that anyone can - it is just about breaking the cycle of fear that goes on in your brain - quite literally a sceientific thing - your brain runs constantly through the bad stuff - don't worry it is completely normal.Good luck and please talk to someone that is close to you and you know you can rely on.
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