A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:A couple of years ago my common law husband and I were not getting along very well. I confronted him about having an affair because he was very rude to me at times, slept in his truck one night instead of coming home, talked constantly about the females at work and the ones he was meeting through work, and even defending them at times. Then when he quit they gave him a boob cake with a blow up doll etc. etc. I was upset too, the way he was portraying himself to them. We worked though it, and recently he gave me his old cell phone. A text wasn't erased from that period a couple years ago. It said "Hey, wanna f'''". He says he couldnt remember sending it to anyone, he'd only send stuff like that to me, thought he did send it to me, now thinks he sent to a guy he was working with just kidding around. The number now belongs to a couples cell phone. I called there and got there voice messaging. There is no way of finding out the number now, or should I try to contact the kid he was working with? He has made no attempt to clear himself though. I'm having dreams now of him doing all sorts of "lies" and just really dont know what to do anymore. He has lied before, for less than this, until I come up with physical evidence. I feel stupid for believing and stupid for not believing. I'm scared now of what else can come out of the woodwork. How can I deal with this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2008): listen to what you feel.if you feel like he is lying,then he most likely is,dont second guess yourself.women have a way of just knowing when somethings not right,but in their mind they will question whether they are just jumping to conclusions.99 percent of the time though,your gut instinct is correct.tell him you need the truth and that you cant continue a relationship based on lies.if he tells you the truth,then you can decide what you want to do from there,maybe you can work it out.if he doesnt, then id suggest kicking him to the curb:)
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