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writes:my boyfriend and I broke up just over a month ago now.we were in a very close and serious relationship, we loved each other very much and always had fun together.we didnt break up because of arguments or cheating, basically its because our relationship would have turned long distance in a few months and i could not handle this due to previous bad long distance experience.we have remained close friends since breaking up, always texting (sometimes more than when we were together) and we still see each other a lot. nothing has happened sexually since the break up.i miss him so much though, and when we hug i always wish he would kiss me and tell me he still loves me.i still care for him deeply and i know he cares about me too, but we have both put on a pretty strong front through all of this and although i miss him as my boyfriend i havent mentioned this to him in case he now prefers us just being friends.part of me wonders whether he feels the same and doesnt want to ruin our friendship even though he still likes me as more than a friend? would he have told me by now though?being in this situation has made me rethink things, i do believe i could give the long distance thing ago, i know i need to tell him this, but im scared of rejection.do you think we still have a chance together from what i have described? and do you think i should tell him how i feel and risk losing him as a friend? thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2009): I have been in the same exact situation with my ex and now current boyfriend. This situation was very tricky for me at first, because I had never had quite the same situation before. He was my first love and the only guy that has stayed faithful to me the whole time we have been together. What I did in this situation was I worked out a schedule around his and my busy schedules from work and school. I went down there on frequent weekends and most holiday breaks. After we started hanging out more our relationship began to develop into something much stronger than it was before. Even just as friends we were closer and stronger than before he moved because of the fact that once I lost him in a sense, it made me realize my true feelings for him and he realized his true feelings for me were much stronger than we had originally thought.So just take a chance and if he really does love you and it really is worth it for you twos relationship to work out, then it will. It's just like this old saying I love thats really great to remember in these situations. It goes a little something like this: If you love something , set it free. If it comes back it was meant to be. If it doesnt come back it was never meant to be.
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