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writes:My girlfriend needs me to have sex with her three times a day. I use to love it but now i'm can't even say no to her without her crying and I can't stand hearing her so I give in. I'm really wore out from all the sex. I told her to cut it down she ... Reply to this Question
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reader, pebble  +, writes (24 May 2009):
 Seriously, does she have nothing better to do than have sex three times a day? Does she not have a job? A life? I don't understand how people even have time for that.
I mean, I get people have high sex drives but this is just silly. If she cries everytime you say no to her then that's emotional blackmail. It's obviously becoming a problem if you feel you HAVE to give in because you don't want to upset her. That's not love. That's her emotionally abusing you to get what she wants. What she's doing to you is wrong and anyone here who thinks it isn't is way off the mark and just as bad as she is.
Have a look at this link about sex addiction and see if she matches any of the characteristics.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/sex_and_sexual_health/probs_sexaddiction.shtml
If she does, then she needs some professional help.
Otherwise, you need to have a really serious talk with her. Tell her that you will not allow her to bully you like this anymore. You've made lots of compramise, now it's her turn.
Good luck.
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female
reader, LOML  +, writes (24 May 2009):
 Well I love to have a lot of sex also me and my bf have sex 2X a day I wish it was thre lol.. But I get the feeling at times he don't feel like it either he let me know when he's tired tho its understadable just talk to her and let her know your tired and you would rather do somthing else other then sex like watching movies or going out or etc..
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): Buy her a really big dildo and tell her to have at it...
No, just kidding. Sounds like you and she need to have a sit-down talk about this. Tell her it's not that you don't find her attractive, but rather that it's causing you physical discomfort. If she doesn't get the point then try having sex with her at a time when SHE doesn't want it to make yourself understood. I don't mean rape her, obviously. I mean wake her up in the middle of the night when you know she is tired and ask if she wants to have sex. Or wait until you hear her complain about cramping from her period and then ask. Sounds a bit awful I know but she needs to understand that sex is not one-sided and both parties should be interested if it's going to happen. Good luck.
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