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female
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30-35,
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writes:Ok, so lately I've been looking at my bfs facebook page, and this girl writes on his wall, pretty much every day, with flirty little messages. (Bit of background - she lives in New Zealand, where he grew up, we live in the UK, but moving back to australia/new zealand area next year)I got really curious/upset about it, so I looked at his emails when he was out (yeh, terrible I know and I hate snooping, but I was incredibly curious 'cos I know she emails him regularly too) and the latest messsage from her read something along the lines of 'I had a dream about you last night, I really miss you, are you coming back (to NZ) soon?Going further back to 08, before we started going out, she sent a message which basically said she's hugely in love with him, can't have any other relationship because all she wants is him, and would there be any chance they'd get together?(He had a long-term girlfriend of about 2 years at the time) And he messaged back hinting it was possible.I confronted him about the last email (what he said or did before we started going out doesn't concern me) and he said they're just friends, etc.But I'm worried about moving back to australia, where we will be nearer to her, presumably trying to get with him (because obviously him having girlfriends doesn't put her off)Also, when I asked him if she'd ever admitted to having a crush on him, he said she hasn't. Admittedly, he has a terrible memory, but I doubt he would forget someones declaration of undying love!I asked him a few times, like 'are you SURE she hasn't said anything, I won't be mad I just wanna know' etc, and he always denies it.I'm not sure what to do.... I've added her on F-book and sent her a message asking what's up with her always leaving suggestive messages on his wall, but I'm really upset he lied to me, about her liking him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): Looks like your boyfriend likes to play the field and isn't as serious about the relationship as you are. He's lying so he can have the best of both worlds and he'll probably keep doing it. It's up to you if you want to stay with a guy that you can't trust, his behavior won't change either.
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