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*ragon69
writes:well this past week things have been going great positive convo on the phone she actually called me 3 days in a row and told me she misses me we got together one night we did stuff and i helped her with her computer and things around the house that day was great i got a bunch of kisses hugs we walked around a couple stores and she wrapped her arms around me and i her it was FABulous! then the next morning its like she did a 180 and was being a total bitch she dropped me back off at my place and she just kinda gave me the cold shoulder. she was on her way to her friends house to go to some concert. and i'm trying to talk to her as a friend cause i wanted to know how the concert went and shes not even saying a word. i texted her last night and asked her if she was mad at me or just didnt want to talk and she siad she didnt want to talk. i was like what the hell? one min your all over me actin like we were together the next its back to the way it was.. and its really starting to affect my health mentaly and physically and i dont know how to stop it! i'm going back to my old ways watching my cell every sec seeing am i going to miss a call keeping yahoo messenger on seeing shes on waiting for her to say hi. always wondering now, (cause she made me start initaling divorce papers) whats going on is there someone else? she says she doesnt have the time but she always seems to find time when we get together so whats stopping her from getting with someone else.. this is killing me eventually probably litteraly! what the hell am i supposed to do.. i have started seeing a counceler about all this but i only see her once every other week.. i just need some advice as to how i can get through all this without all the heartache and suffering.. i try my friends but they are always busy the times i need them the most they arnt here. i just want to show her in the future i will be molded into the man she wants. thats one of the reason she was confused cause she was thinkn of that. cause i'm working hard on myself to be stronger. how can i get that in her head. i mean yeah i know that the marriage is over but we did a lot of things wrong and i want one last chance to make them right is there a way i can do that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): It's good you've started seeing a consuellor. This tends to help.
I'm there with you at staring at your phone. Endless just wondering, then you confront them about it and they say, "I didn't want to get you into trouble." - WHAT THE HELL DOES THAT MEAN!?!?!
Shes possibly messing around with you. Continue to try and talk to her but don't hang around. Try avoiding her a bit -
this might make her talk to you. If not, use this site and the support from your consuellors to get you through. I'll definatley be there if you just message me.
Say that you want this one last chance. Maybe shes struggling to get over you?! WHO KNOWS! Because you need to talk to her, and if she persistantly doesn't want to then you've done everything you can.
You need to be there. You can't force anyone to love you, or even like you. Go away with just you two. Access your relationship. Talk about issues. Listen and advise.
Just be sensitive. Things in life do hurt you but the more they hurt, the more they affect you and therefore the more you can learn from them in return. Remember it can't get much worse, so it can only go up after that, if not now.
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reader, Hopeful4evaxx  +, writes (29 June 2008):
 Well you clearly seem to be in pain here. Well to be honest she dosent sound any good for you if she is willing to put you threw this but i no its easier said then done to leave someone. She clearly dosent no what she wants in life and has got you on a piece of string. She pulls you in when she wants you and lets you loose when she cant be bothered. You have to let her no exactly what she is doing to you and how much her moods are affecting you. She is completey scared of commitment and doesnt want to get in to deep in case she cant get back out. The best thing for you to do is back off and let her come to you. If its meant to be, it will be.
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