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writes: i hate everything my bf is interested in.all he ever talks about is music and bands that i hate and always have done. any time i try to talk about my music he just critisizes and claims how his is better. i dnt like his dress sense i hate his hair. absolutly hate it. i like it long bt his is about the length of my mums. im completely embarrassed telling ppl im going out with him. he looked nice before, he liked the same things etc and now we're different. but i love him, i have really strong feelings for him, but it hurts me that we cant really share the same things. we'll never b able to go to concerts n talk of things we both like etc. He says opposites attract bt i hate how he looks. i love his personality tho. he's really caring and i know he loves me to pieces. but i get so depressed that i dnt think it can work out. theres another guy i talk to all the time. i used to fancy him. hes really sweet n hes into all the same things i am. he tells me wot he does with is gf n things n i wish me n my bf could be like that. its even at the point i really wish i could be with this guy for a few minutes.i snap myself out of it bt you know...what do i do? i dont want to keep hurting him. i want to break up with him whenever i feel like this because i tell him how i doubt about us n everything n i no it would break my heart if he did it to me. i dont want to hurt him but i keep doing it. its a reoccurring problem bt he says he cant change. but he's just so nice. i cant imagine a life without him. i dont really want to break up with him, i love him,i just wish he would be as he was before. he just says he's uncomfortable with it.plz help asap
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reader, Anonymousloll +, writes (8 January 2007):
My advice is you can't change a person, it sounds as though you love the person he was and he's changed now and you dont like it. I can understand, i became obsessive with my boyfriend, we worked it out but now im scared he isnt the same with me, but if you really feel like things arent working out then maybe you should end it. To me though, it sounds like you're being picky, theres obviously going to be things you dont have in common with him but try to focus on the things you do have in common, and your relationship, you say you love him and he clearly loves you, thats one thing you have in common. Hope i helped but you have to figure out what u want first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2007): I'm sorry for your situation, but it seems that your love for your boyfriend doesn't help out with the fact that you like different things. What you both could is try and find other common interests, and respect each other when you reach a disagreement. It seems that both of you jump down each other's throat without thinking nowadays. You need to reach a common ground before you go any further, and respect each other's opinions. RESPECT is the most fundamental part of a relationship, without it, you wouldn't treat each other as if you really love each other.
As for this other friend of yours whom you used tolike, you can try talking to him about all this;it seems like he'l listen.
Best wishes,
"Human"
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